Reframing: State change: Changing your emotional state

Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude. The myth of “IS” One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew “is” on us. OK, that was a long sentence. let me see … Continue reading “Reframing: State change: Changing your emotional state”

Reframing: State change

Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude. The myth of “IS” One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew “is” on us. OK, that was a long sentence. let me see […]

Reframing: our tool for creating

You’ve heard of the expression: like a deer caught in the headlights syndrome: frozen, seeing the world one way with no escape route. Most people live their whole lives in that state: see the world in a fixed way. To one degree or another we are all are like that. The more of your life […]

Ambition versus Desire… Why ambition has become a dirty word, and who does it serve?

I spent yesterday reading the novel the 1997 Dutch film (Character) was based upon. Of course they changed a few things, and the film left me in deep quandary. The title didn’t make sense. The whole dynamic didn’t make sense. So I read the book. Most movies’ ending is clear… this is probably only the …

Everything You Ever Wanted Is Coming To You Through Other People.

Henry David Thoreau wrote The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. What is the meaning of desperation? Desperate means “having lost all hope.” … If you are in a desperate situation, …

A feeble attempt to go to the 13th floor where words don’t have emotional meaning

When we live on the 14th and the 15th floor of our being, where words and the added emotional content govern our lives, we are utterly miserable. We have no control over our emotions: others have, words have. We eat … Continue reading → Related Posts: Chasing the blue bird of happiness How the Tree […]

The connection between your vocabulary and your deserving factor

The connection between the number of words you can correctly use in writing or in speaking and your intelligence, your worth a damn factor, and your deserving the good life… or not.

I am a reader. I read a lot. But yet, a whole new world opened up for me when I started to read on the Kindle. Why? Because it has a built in dictionary. As a result, I have added, to date, 2,000 words to my vocabulary.

It was very cumbersome to read with a dictionary before… I would lose my place, etc.

But the Kindle has made it possible.

I find the word… but sometimes the word in the dictionary is not useful.

I am reading Seneca, the person with whom my teaching of how to live life, how to be happy, i

I never had to really learn it… so how I teach you to live in reality? The 13th floor

This article will be deemed self-aggrandizing, or something of that sort… and I don’t care. Truth is truth…

I am 69 years old.

I have lived, this is a 20/20 hindsight, my entire life on the 13th floor. Two months ago I would not have said that: I didn’t know there is such a thing…

Having live there all my life: I am having a real tough time to say how I got there… because I never lived on the 14th or the 15th floor… the 13th floor is reality, based on your sensory organs, not on thought.

My brothers did live on the 14th floor. Both. My father also lived on the 13th floor. My mother didn’t.

The biggest difference, looking through my own eyes now, is the meanings. On the 14th

She came from her strength…

My friend from my youth, Panni, just turned 70 years old.

Her family, husband, two sons, made a video for her, interviewing friends. She lives in Budapest, where we graduated from Architecture School together, 46 years ago.

It was interesting to watch. I witnessed friendships for friendship sake, I witnessed Americans with no insight, only asking: when are you coming to the USA?

I witnessed gratitude. She moved from the suburbs to this big old building with many apartments. And promptly organized the neighbors into a community.

This is her strength. Community builder. So

“If the mountain won’t come to you, you must go to the mountain”

One of my favorite quotes from an ad is from the Men’s Hair Club… where the owner says: “I’m not just the president of Hair Club for Men, I’m also a client!”

I would never want to do business with anyone who is not also a client of their own business…

And of course, I am a client of my own. Meaning: I learn from what I write… and I learn and test everything first, before I recommend it…

With that said: to date the two most valuable nuggets I got out of my participation in my 67 step coaching program are:

  • 1. innovate your way out of the problem
  • 2. add suspenders to your belt.

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