As important as a yes… is a no. Actually, you’ll be left with the authentic yes

on-saying-noI own a business… This blog is part of it.

I am on hundreds of marketers’ mailing list, and I get hundreds of emails about new software, new tricks and strategies to increase traffic, visibility, and ultimately revenue.

I buy some of them. I use 20% of what I buy.

And then I get the whales. That promise to train me to become a super marketer, a money magnet.

It’s that time of the year, there are three such offers going on at the same time.

Tons of stuff. If I put them into boxes… they would fill many.

The allure is tremendous. I can barely breathe…

And then I do the unexpected… I ask a relevant question. I act as my own coach…

I ask: Do I want my life to be about marketing? Do I want to become a marketer?
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I was looking at trust, the intangible capacity to trust… and its role in becoming a winner

no trust - no winningIn the past four months that I have been able to turn on individual capacities for people, I have received no request to turn on trust.

Why is that?

After all people, rightly, asked me for self-trust. But self-trust won’t be enough.

So what can be the current world view with regards to trust, that trust doesn’t come up as number one to turn on.

Because, whether you know it or not, without trust there is no winning. Without trust there is no flow. Without trust there is no fulfillment.

When I measured some winners in life, for whom it took years to hone their skills with which they won, money, recognition, admiration… trust was there, fully open.

As you probably already know, I use playing Freecell as my laboratory. It is much the way Richard Dawkins, The Selfish Gene author used the computer simulation “Prisoner’s Dilemma”… very enlightening for me.

So, what I saw today, and it’s only 6:45 am, lol, that without trust you can only play for keeps, or without trust you can’t open your eyes wide, and take steps that will only pay off 20-30 steps down the line. Continue reading “I was looking at trust, the intangible capacity to trust… and its role in becoming a winner”

Can you be selfish and generous at the same time?

desire for the self alone is the only evil there isI am reading Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene. The genes that use humans as vehicles, and are only interested in procreation, and not in the life experience of the vehicle.

But, as I have said before, there are 160 intangible capacities, mostly dormant, in the human DNA. The ones that we are going to look at in this article are the capacities (genes) of generosity (altruism) and trust.

Trust and generosity seem to be at odds with the selfishness of the genes… but they don’t have to be.

The crucial decider… is that a word?, is whether the gene of envy is turned on, or not.

Envy is at odds with trust and generosity, because envy means: desire for the self alone… i.e. wanting the other to lose more than wanting to win. Considering the other losing as a win for you. Considering the other’s misfortune, suffering, pain, as a win for you.

According to Kabbalah, that is the only evil there is. I see it clearly.
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As important as a yes… is a no. Actually, you’ll be left with the authentic yes

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I own a business… This blog is part of it. I am on hundreds of marketers’ mailing list, and I get hundreds of emails about new software, new tricks and strategies to increase traffic, visibility, and ultimately revenue. I buy … Continue reading

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Can you be selfish and generous at the same time?

desire for the self alone is the only evil there is

I am reading Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene. The genes that use humans as vehicles, and are only interested in procreation, and not in the life experience of the vehicle. But, as I have said before, there are 160 intangible … Continue reading

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Is a five year old running your life? Running it to the ground?

5-year-oldThe knee jerk reaction is, universally, to want to fix what doesn’t work, what doesn’t please us.

“It’s wrong and it needs to be fixed.” you say…

This fixing thing has brought you more misery with every attempt to fix it. The more fixing you do the more unbearable life becomes, and the further the life you wanted to live has moved.

It’s not a mirage, it’s how it is. Not only seem that way. You get deeper into the bind all your fixings caused you.

But yet, every time you see something that doesn’t work as well as you’d like it, you have a new opportunity to fix it and go deeper into misery, or bring conscious awareness to it to see what you can see in the light of conscious awareness.

I will bring my example here. I’ll make it a business example, please indulge me.
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67-step coaching… I am already loving it

baby-steps I am getting feedback that the 67 steps program sounds like a get rich quick scheme. It is nothing of the kind. It’s not even about money! It is a deep spiritual inquiry and an education. The education you didn’t get from your parents, the education you didn’t get from school, and definitely not from living. In the right hand it’s like the magic wand… 67 times waved to get to a higher vibration, a higher awareness, a higher consciousness… on your way out of your unfulfilling life…

I am offering four weeks of free coaching to people who buy the 67 steps program through my link. Why am I doing this? Because the 67 steps program is a great way to have direction in the coaching. Otherwise the coaching devolves to complaining and advising… not my favorite kind of coaching. Also the 67 steps drives up stuff I would not be able to detect otherwise. So it is the best deal for me, and the best deal for you.

I have started to coach the 67 steps.

One person active, a few signed up but not active yet… so far, but I have already seen something worth talking about.

I’ve known this client for a few years now. He has made great strides, but has reached a plateau.

In his answers to the 67 steps questions was all cut from the same cloth: all ideas of how to fix something obvious.

Remember that most things that keep you back, keep you anchored, are below the water level. Not visible. Not obvious.

Potentially upsetting, like my funeral test experience. But what is upsetting is the source of the biggest breakthrough. In my case, I saw that I have set up my life the way I have set up my life, and it works for me.

The funeral test is the test from the world… I am happy to have found yet another way I am an outsider and an outlier. I don’t want to participate with a world that considers electing Donald Trump for president, for example. ((Finally Americans are getting what mobocracy can get them: a horrible man with a vibration of 100, but the skills of a Bill Gates, killing off with skilled smearing anyone who stands his way. Shyster. Dangerous.

I must say you deserve it.

I don’t like Hillary, I don’t like Democrats, but if Trump gets elected, I am sure his Hitlerian persona will turn against me and mine…

How interesting how history repeats itself. Reliably, inexorably, unstoppably.

Hitler Jr…))

So the questions in the 67 step program are not questions to force you yet another set of daily promises that you won’t keep. Promises that even if you kept them would not make a difference.

Creating daily promises, on the top of the awareness issues, is what you have been doing all these years, unaware that the waters run deep, and you are not taking care of the real issues: you don’t manage them.

  1. So this is the first issue: attending to the irrelevant, unimportant, surface stuff. Busy, feverish activity about nothing important.
  2. The second issue is this: you have been promising to do those things for ages, and you are now adding other promises that you won’t keep. You can’t keep. They are too many.
  3. Your integrity is more and more out, your relationship between you and you is getting damaged, and instead of helping yourself, you are putting yourself in miseryWithout integrity nothing works.

I am at step 26, and I haven’t made one single promise yet.

baby-steps1-300x266I am allowing awareness, consciousness to penetrate depths they haven’t penetrated, and leave to them to do the work.

The winners of this world differ in one major thing from the rest of the world: their level of awareness.

But notice where you went when I told you this… you looked around and checked if you are aware… but that is NOT what I am talking about.

You may be 100% aware of the things that don’t make a difference, and you live a life full of misery.

Awareness is not a mosquito… a butterfly… a dragonfly. It goes deep, and it goes slow.

My funeral test step and how it has healed long buried pain

My funeral test example is a good one. I watched that video three-four days ago. Awareness was alerted to something to explore. I was lead, by awareness, to mother’s death, to needing people, to being disappointed, deceived, deserted, to the pain of having people who are not there… I was lead to the depths, to the invisible, to the beyond. So I can deal with it… not awareness. Awareness just sees. YOU have to deal with what awareness sees.

I dealt with it with grieving, crying, and then seeing CLEARLY that I have chosen and still choose solitude. An environment to do my work. Nothing to be sad about…

Once the sadness is gone, what is left is joy and happiness. Choice. Power.

I had another benefit as well. Someone who says she is my friend, screamed at me. For a long time. From the top of her lungs. It tore up old wounds. Old wounds that weren’t properly healed. Like broken bones that weren’t properly set.

So now I can set them to heal properly.

What is different now from when I got the wounds is that I see that the screaming, the anger belongs to the person: it is their hell, has nothing to do with me. I just triggered it… it is their unhealed wounds.

Now I can relate to screaming, anger directed at me, differently.

Am I completely healed? We’ll see when the next person screams… in another two years or so.

This also gave me an opportunity to appreciate what some students have to go through to learn from me, to be coached by me. And see that my job, that their job is to get to a place where they can watch the screamer, past or present, in their life, with detached compassion, instead of fear or dread.

If you are reading this: you know who you are…

And with that, I got another unexpected benefit. It’s been upsetting me that these people, these students, are upset when I am harsh with them.

But I realized that I could see myself in them, see the unhealed wounds, and help them heal it.

And then another benefit: see that when I am upset by a fictional character’s behavior in a movie or Netflix series, I see there, or I COULD see there a wound in ME that hasn’t healed… and get intensely curious, send awareness on a hunt for the exact wound that hasn’t healed.

I don’t watch “shows” as entertainment. I watch them for three reasons:

  1. to see how they do/find things… how they find clues, how they never jump into conclusion: they teach me
  2. to see different human behavior that I would not be able to see in my daily life
  3. to get clearer and clearer about what I stand for, what I stand against, who I am.

Know yourself, deeply, intimately, compassionately… that is one of my goals.

Because if you are a human, you, yourself, are a mystery to yourself… I don’t remember who said it, so let me find the quote:

The Three Great Mysteries: air to a bird, water to a fish, mankind to himself

Just as you have to take the fish out of water for it to see the water… you have to take a person out of themselves to see themselves.

Awareness, consciousness is outside… Outside of what you consider YOU. So it can see clearly.

Once you get awareness working with you, once you allow it to guide your glance, look through “its eyes”… you start to see what is below the water level of your being, and attend to it.

Not fix… attend. Not fixable…

I know, you hoped that there is an energy, a course, a spell, a pill that could fix it all.

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Would you come to my funeral if I died?

I am a little under the weather.

It’s not a cold… it’s more like… let me tell you what happened.

As you know I put myself into this daily wakeup call, daily “knock you conscious” program, the 67 steps.

This past week, I don’t remember which day, the question was: how many people will be at your funeral when you die? Or that is what I heard.

I think it was more like: Have you passed the funeral test… anyway, I have been dealing with that question. Not well.

I am a hermit. The few people I actually know, would not come to my funeral… probably would not even know about.

So if I needed to measure the value of my life in passing the funeral test, I have all the reason to get depressed.
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One big thinking mistake you’ve kept from early childhood, that is holding you back in life

magic-trick-pulling-rabbit-out-of-top-hatWhen you were a little kid, the whole world looked quite magical. Food appeared out of nothing, people did big things, cakes, birthday gifts, all kinds of big things came out of nothing.

The child thinks that this is the nature of reality: big things from nothing.

No wonder the magical thinking modalities, like manifestation and “law of attraction” are so popular: most of you never changed your world view: you still think that the nature of reality is to jump from one state to the other, create something from nothing…

This was also the secret of Sai Baba, whose whole fame and fortune came from his ability to do sleight of hand magic tricks. Millions fell for it.

But this is not how it happens in nature.

Actually change in nature is based on microscopic changes… 90% of them in the invisible domain, below the earth, inside the cells, where you can’t see it, can’t track it.
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Three groups… three outcomes… which one do you belong to?

arrogance-weaknessThe most popular image I have on Instagram says: Arrogance is weakness disguised as strength.

Now, why this is worth writing about?

Because it is the tip of the iceberg of something really important.

We have spoken about the selfish gene. For the gene you are a survival vehicle only. And a person, who is not related to you, is competition, rival… and in your gene’s way to make more copies of itself.

I know this is unfamiliar territory, but please bear with me, because where it is taking us is worth going to… so patience… you don’t have to understand the genes… unless you really want to.

I don’t want to add another worthless article to the already millions of worthless articles on human nature.

With that said… human nature is to compete. Compete for attention, compete for sex, compete for resources. All dictated by the selfish gene…

One way it does that is comparing. Comparing yourself to other people.

If you fall short in comparison, there are three ways to go about that. Continue reading “Three groups… three outcomes… which one do you belong to?”