Colin Wilson is one of my favorite writers. I started my course of study with him with The Mind Parasites, a science fiction novel, back in 1987.
In the books I have read, Colin Wilson is only interested (really) in a few questions: What does it mean to be a Human Being, and how to accomplish that? What is the purpose of life, and how to fulfill on that purpose?
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
Surprise: I don’t need your gratitude. I don’t want your gratitude. I know what works, and I can find out if it worked for you without ever having to ask you. That’s what you can do with empathy.
So why do I encourage you to share? So others can hear that it works? Like a testimonial?
No, neither, but that’s a good idea, maybe I’ll use them as a testimonial!
Fixing: the number one way the mind leads you astray. If you are a fixer, know that fixing is stupid Background: One of my favorite books is Colin Wilson’
Well, this could be a real long article, even a book. I won’t go there… writing a book is way too long for my ADHD personality. But there is one teacher, who I admire, Colin Wilson (of “Outsider” and “ The Mind Parasites ” fame, who wrote a book, “
I have been reading Colin Wilson: The Outsider.
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
Surprise: I don’t need your gratitude. I don’t want your gratitude. I know what works, and I can find out if it worked for you without ever having to ask you. That’s what you can do with empathy.