Pushing on a string.. Sometimes you are the pusher, other times you are the string

Around the time when I graduated from Architecture School, my brother impregnated a woman 10 years his senior, who wanted to get married.

I recommended that he pay for her abortion and call it quits.

To my surprise he listened to me. (This is the phenomenon, when it is NOT pushing on a string… rare) I didn’t know why and how I knew that the woman just wanted to marry a Jewish boy… that it wasn’t for love, or for mutual support. I didn’t know I was an empath.

Knowing what is people hidden nature is a blessing, and is a burden. And an invaluable tool in coaching. You can’t lie to me…

Most people want to go down danger’s, death’s path… it is their path. Talking to them it is like pushing on a

Working on the thing you want, directly, is a mistake…

you are a liarThe same faulty thinking, the same thinking that makes you not do things that don’t directly produce money, or the results you seek, the same thinking that makes you a chef with no food in the pantry, is what keeps your relationships empty, and causes your vibration to remain low.

I was just looking at a post of mine: an Osho talk.

He says: Allow Silence to Grow

It triggered a distaste in my mouth. I published that article and I am suddenly knocking it? WTF, right?

But there is a reason… I have changed. I see things that even just a week ago could not see

I have to confes

Why are you holding your breath? And why it is an ineffective way to manage your emotions?

I get insights in bite size chunks… here is a new insight I just got. Your attention, that force to reckon with, that power you wield to bring life to stuff is connected to your breath. They say: what you … Continue reading → Related Posts: The World Is Waiting To Exhale… You cannot catch […]

The capacity of seeing patterns…the threshold capacity

alberteinstein118979I am reading a book, Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise. I am reading it because I want to be able to teach my students better, so they can leave behind the level of ordinary school learning, the pedestrian learning that always produces pedestrian result.

Amateurish performance, amateurish life. ((Your level of fulfillment is exponentially correlated to the amount of effort you invested. Easy: no fulfillment. Hard, lots of effort, hardship: lots of fulfillment.))

Spiritual Practice: Neutralize being ineffective and unhappy, neutralize overwhelm

looking about, multitasking, overwhelmAs I have said before: the ONLY way to be happy is to accept what is, exactly. Accept how it is. And also accept how it isn’t.

Now, this second statement, accept reality how it isn’t is the topic of this article, the essence of this spiritual practice. Accept that it is what it is, not something else, that may look better, faster, easier…

One of the symptoms of not accepting reality the way it isn’t, is overwhelm… another one is misery… Want to know more?

Now, before I continue, I want to explain something:

Filters

Where does the truth I write come from? Stream of consciousness.

I write the largest chunks of surprising truths that way. Something triggers it, and there it comes… Quick, to the computer!

I read Kathryn’s comment on the Worry article, and something clicked.

Everyone says: you need to remove your filters. You need to remove blockages. Bad beliefs, about yourself and the world. It’s not working. Not for anyone… ok, maybe a few.

What if the reason no one is succeeding with those “techniques” is because that is not the right method to do it?

Go read the rest of the article

Why Am I Miserable? Why You Are Miserable? The Most Binding Agreements Are The Ones You Never Made

Why Am I Miserable? Why You Are Miserable? The Most Binding Agreements Are The Ones You Never Made I had a session with a client. The conversation went to one of my ‘favorite’ topics: why wives stop wanting intimacy after the children are born. This is a big issue for men, and destroys many marriages

What’s the difference between a presidential candidate and an internet marketing guru?

American citizens, eligible to vote, are divided. But whether you will vote to Obama, McCain, or stay at home and let others decide, one thing is certain, no one is looking at the real issue: The skill it takes to win the votes of the majority, i.e. win an election is a very different skill from the skill of running a country. Unless running it to the ground qualifies as running it…. 😉  as we have experienced, time and time again. Just like in politics, the same is true for teaching anything, including internet marketing. The skill it takes to be a successful internet marketer is a vastly different skill from the skill of causing another person’s success. We all look to our guru to teach us what to do and how to do it, so that we can be successful like them, and we all get very frustrated and very weary, because what they say and what they do are often different, and even if and when we did exactly what they said to do, we meet with meager success. How come? We seem all very surprised. Well, let me ask you this: have you ever heard of a successful football or basketball coach that played real well? Or the reverse: have you ever heard of a successful player that was also a great coach? Most successful players play from their “other than conscious mind.” Their conscious mind doesn’t know what they are doing: they feel their way. They say that chess masters use their other than conscious mind to play with lightening speed, that their conscious mind doesn’t even comprehend. I play freecell (a computer game). In the beginning I looked and looked, and only made moves that made sense to me. As the years passed, I am catching myself that when I give my other than conscious mind a good look at the computer screen with the game open, it knows what to do and wins the game for me. Thank you other than conscious mind. So what does this have to do with internet marketing? Unfortunately, a lot. They say internet marketing is simple but not easy. If we stay with the freecell computer game, the moves are real simple. but it is rare that someone can score a 100. why? Because you can make the simple moves ONLY in a certain order, and be successful at the same time. The pull to pick the low hanging fruit, and make the easy moves first, will certainly get you in trouble. And here are we, back where we started: The advantage of a good teacher is to give us a step by step plan… which the chess-master type guru can’t. He never did what he did consciously, so he can’t give you the plan. So what is the solution? What can a ‘guru’ give you that will make you succeed? I have come up with two possible solutions that look hopeful: 1. give people chunks of ready made pieces of the puzzle, and a simple assembly plan. i.e. do it FOR them. 2. give people and environment where they can do it with others, and guide them I am going to give you solution #1 today. I have prepared for you six websites, each designed to self-run itself and become successful with just a little help from you. And I have prepared for you a marketing goldmine: 103 different small and big strategies that you can follow to help nature in its work, and make the sites more successful, even take them to the top.