Yesterday I was on the phone with a client.

Her soul correction is Fear/Fearless. In the conversation it was becoming obvious that she had read the book “Feelings”. I have been so excited about. So the conversation was on a more even footing that most of my conversations: she has been paying attention and recognizing at least some of the dynamics the feelings have, and has been managing her fear quite well.

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You have always wanted to get out of your head. You tried meditation, drugs, to no avail. Because the way out of the head is through the feelings… the body, where you feel the feelings. Your control center. Overriding the mind nearly 100% of the time.

Feelings, unpleasant feelings, can be a burden, especially if you cannot decipher the message they carry.

Each and every feeling is a guidance. It is telling you to do something. Not necessarily big things. Not necessarily in your best interest.

Feelings are not guidance from god or angels or whatever you think give a hoot about your well-being.

No. Feelings are your body talking to you. Your body that wants you to be safe, wants you to be well nourished, get enough rest, get enough information so you can stay alive. Get companionship, belong to like-minded people, and measure up, be well thought of, and make you think well of yourself.

You have “not speaking body” fluently at all. You have been fighting your body, fighting the feelings, and just like with people: you want only people around you who tell you nice things so you can feel good about yourself, whether you deserve it or not. You only want to feel good feelings.

• Your so-called friends are the ones who lie to you about you. They tell you what you want to hear.
• You shop for gurus and teachers who do the same.
• You don’t like anything unpleasant, and you have become the runt of the litter… weak of mind, weak of body, a weakling.

People who can take unpleasant feelings can run circles around you. Because everything in life comes with two feelings, one unpleasant and one pleasant.

The unpleasant feeling lasts a long time, the pleasant is a blip on the screen of life.

The purpose of life is NOT happiness, NOT feeling pleasant feelings: all that is only possible through unnatural behavior, addictive behavior, because that is not how life is. That is NOT the purpose of life.

I exchanged emails with a long time student of mine yesterday. She got a glimpse of this addictive behavior, through the articles and maybe through the workshop we had this past Tuesday, What’s the truth about you?

Her TLD score is 2… which means she has SOME tolerance for bad feelings. Like tolerating no instant success, tolerating not understanding, tolerating not seeing something clearly. Unpleasant feelings. Tolerating them and not being stopped by them, not running from them. Some tolerance… 2 on the scale of 1-100. But because it is a logarithmic scale, it is ten times more than a 1.

And at the end of those unpleasant, long lasting feelings she finally manages to get success, to understand, to see something clearly… and then there is a blip of feeling of accomplishment, a caress on her fragile sense of self. Atta girl. Not long lasting, but enough to give her some energy to continue.

• You see, without understanding that you have a tendency to avoid what feels bad, you will have no achievements.
• Without understanding that the good feeling disappears once it rewarded you for what you did, and the next is: more unpleasant feelings nudging you on, you’ll get stuck feeling hopeless.

 

• If you knew how feelings work,
• what is the feeling is trying to make you do,
• if you didn’t try to avoid unpleasant feelings, instead you’d look what they want you to do,
• if the good feelings were not so short, and the unpleasant feelings so persistent,

you wouldn’t need to go to motivational talks, because your feelings motivate you enough.

And the high feelings of a motivational talk is actually counter-productive: it’s like a drug. It now created a new baseline to aspire to…

After taking a drug life looks pale, bloodless, unexciting in comparison.

• One of my advantages in life is that I am not into excitement. I have never taken any drugs, I don’t like the effects of alcohol, and sex leaves me with “so what?!”
• I don’t like excitement, I like life to be even keeled…
• I don’t compete. I don’t gamble. I don’t like the Adrenalin rush.

Sex is the simplest to see example to show how feelings work:

You are horny… for a long time. It starts with a whisper, but gets louder gradually. Horniness is an unpleasant urging feeling that tries to tell you that you need to go and find a sui

partner to make little babies.

Then you do. And… and the whole orgasm experience is three seconds… if you are lucky. It’s a release of the negative pressure, just like peeing, or pooping.

When you look at gay people, the nudging of the reproductive urge is almost constant. And the concern for the offspring is missing… no offspring from same sex sex…

Because the urge is constant and the release is so flimsy, gay people’s mind is almost all day on sex… Of course I don’t know about heterosexuals… My mind isn’t on sex… And rarely was when I was in reproductive age.

One other thing though, that may be very important: I have never masturbated. I just allowed the unpleasant urge to dissipate. So I did not wind myself up in the “release the unpleasant feeling with my own hands”… Maybe this is why my TLD score is 50… I can just breathed it out… Allowed it, and it disappeared… ended up not be a puppet on a string.

And that leads us to the question: What does knowing what a feeling wants have to do with high vibration, becoming a person, having a good life: wealth, health, love and happiness?

I think it has to do everything with knowing what the feeling wants, without resisting it. All wanting feelings are unpleasant!

You see, when you know what is going on, you can choose. You can choose to say: no. You can choose to say: not now. You can choose to say yes. Or you can choose to say: let me do something else, instead. All without the jerky resistance, that hurts more than the feeling it wants to ward off.

I didn’t resist horniness. I said to the horniness feeling: “oh, you… not today, honey, I have a headache… let me do this instead…” meaning: do something that was more constructive… like sleep, read, work, or converse.

Feelings, you’ll be surprised, are more malleable, more agreeable than people. The horniness answered: “Oh, ok…” and went away leaving me to do what I wanted to do. Sleep, work, exercise, read… whatever it was that I would rather do.

And just like people: if you ignore them, if you resist them, they raise the volume…

Every “desire” you succumb to, because of your low TLD score, is an energy leak. Every time you act on a desire, instantly, you become weaker, and you have less energy, less enthusiasm, less desire to do the things you want to do for yourself and for your life.

• If you are an underachiever, you are probably a puppet to your desires.
• Or, alternatively, you push away, resist what you don’t like… resistance is another energy leak: the resistance ties up the available energies (and your attention) that you need to do what you need to do, do what will make you successful in life.

And one other thing I am certain about you: you have a cone of vision as narrow as a pencil. Stuck glued to either what you want, or what you don’t want.

When I talk to you, I can direct your pencil light to other areas, and during the conversation you get to see several areas of reality, get a release, but after the call, you immediately return to your pitiful stuck mode or wanting and resisting.

One of the main reasons I use the 67 steps program to coach through is that – if you do it rightly (not everyone does, some are more stuck than others!) – it moves your pencil-light cone of vision for you, so you, hopefully, release your stuck focus on what you want or what you don’t want… and start living, start taking care of things.

Seeing the big picture, aka having the ability to have a wide cone of vision, means that you can see a wide segment of what’s going on, what you want, what you don’t want, what you could want, what you do, what you could do, what you don’t do, what it’s costing you. And be able to make some intelligent decisions.

Your intelligence is seriously impaired by you not being able to look at the big picture.

Awareness is an indicator of the size of your cone of vision.

You cannot be aware if you live in the illusory world of your mind, words.

If you think you are smart, you do have a tendency to do that… live in your mind, in the symbol based world of words. And imagine yourself smart, accomplished, and alive.

You are not any of that.

You are unaware, and it seems to you that you know a lot… unawareness will do that to you.

Some of you will let another move your cone of vision… others won’t. And yet others will take their filters with them, and still keep seeing the same things… nothing changed.

Seeing is important.

Accurately seeing is really important. And life altering.

How do you know you saw something accurately? From your results. You cannot unsee what you have seen accurately. And with that new information, your ship starts to turn, more in line with what you want your life to look.

It isn’t turning? You either didn’t see anything, or what you saw was not accurate, now what was there to see… your filters over wrote reality.

Rackets

I have a client who has an “I am a saint” racket. A racket is a mental construct. On one hand the racket protests, complains about something. On the other hand, in the invisible, concealed realm, every action of the construct is to bring that something to being…

Let’s look at abuse: the abused complains, protests, and yet, her behavior leads to more abuse… If you are aware enough, you can hear the construct chuckle… a self-satisfied chuckle. I did it again…

I used to have an “I am not wanted” racket. I would go to a group, and behave like an ass… and get thrown out. Violate the rules, offend the leader, bring attention to myself. I would, on the visible side, lick my wounds, but underneath the construct the construct (ego?) is happy: it has proven itself right.

You cannot get rid of rackets. They are hardwired. But you can manage them if you are really aware, and really recognize, accurately, the inner dynamic.

The same is with feelings. Knowing them, recognizing them accurately, hands you the levers and the dials of you life: you can move to the driver’s seat in your life and drive it to where you get the most out of living.

And when you do that, when most people do that, wars will end, the abuse of the planet will end, the discord will end, because they are all the result of misguided, unaware, stuck energy in people who think themselves smart.

Read the Neal Stephenson novel, Interface. You’ll see how feelings can be manipulated and make one do someone else’s bidding… Really good book. You’ll love it. I have online versions of it in the paid subscribers’ area. $3 lifetime… unless you unsubscribe from my mailing list. Then I remove you.

Nothing is more important to you, at this time, than to get words around feelings.

Your vocabulary is pitiful… With a larger vocabulary I can teach you. but teaching you the vocabulary? You are asking too much. You may consider carrying some of the “burden” yourself.

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Keywords:	Description:
emotional, emotions	Feelings and emotions are not the same. Feelings come from your body, and they are need based. Emotions are your reactions to those feelings. Emotions are largely symbol based, word based.
intelligence	The ability to tell one thing, accurately from another, to be astute. This is the basis of intelligence. Another component of intelligence is to have enough tools to operate effectively in the world, based on the accurate information. The IQ tests do not measure intelligence, they measure a relative number compared to the average test measure… therefore what a number means changes from time period to the next. At this time the average intelligence is 80% of what it was 10 years ago. Emotional intelligence, due to the internet, and the media bias, has dropped even more.
emotional intelligence	Counter to popular concepts, emotional intelligence is being able to see, accurately, what the emotions, the feelings say, and then handle them in a way that they are helpful, and don’t guide you astray, away from what you want your life to be. The path to increase your emotional intelligence is to learn the inner dynamics of feelings, the hierarchy of need based feelings, and the effective cognitive relationship to it all. Reading, studying the book “Feelings” and the book “Words” by Gyozo Margoczi are the first steps  in this process

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