Who are you? What is your real self? Where is your real self?

in-search-of-selfEveryone, even the most shallow people, wonder who they are. Really.

By the time you are out of high school you have a constructed identity, but it is neither you, nor it makes you happy. But it may make it bearable to be with other people who don’t know who they are, who live out a script that is either compatible with yours or not.

People are afraid to go within.

They are afraid to find out that they are bad, or evil, or stupid.

When curiosity is bigger than the fear, they start meditating. They attempt to go within… but there is nothing there… or the attempt failed and they stayed without… and then begins the biggest pretense of life: pretending to be spiritual… the practitioner of a spiritual practice.

Inside, at the core, you will find nothing. It is how it is. The inside is a channel. A vertical channel, connecting you with all of it.
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What can Columbo teach us after 30 years? In becoming an expanding human being…

What does Columbo can teach us after 30 years?Do you remember Columbo? The detective in his rumpled trench coat?

I watched all Columbo episodes I could while still in Hungary, it was that long ago.

In one of those episodes a person got suddenly thirsty and went out for a coke, during a movie in a cinema… And I don’t remember if he was killed, or he was set up…

I don’t remember, because the show was about subliminal messages spliced into the movies to increase coke drinking, etc.

The length of exposure is very brief, an it is in the middle of an interesting movie, so your mind doesn’t know you saw anything, but your behavior will show you that you saw something: you suddenly have an urge… an urge to run, an urge to stay, an urge to do something.
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The role of structures in happiness, in achievement, in a life worth living

perfect-geometric-patterns-in-nature-22__880I am about as religious as a teacup… and that is actually one of the freedoms that allow me to experiment, to allow myself to be guided through torturous paths, to use my life to discover law-like phenomena, to read everything and the opposite, to allow myself to go from despair to elation and back…

Life, the Universe is largely unknowable. You can, by the way, call it “god” if you wish… and please do that if that will allow you to follow this discussion.

This article will be a little bit hodge-podge, given that I have to gather a lot of disparate stuff to make sense in the end. So bear with me.

Your ability to bear with me will be consistent with the number of capacities you have active on your DNA… If you, like most of humanity, have seven capacities active: you’ll have to hang in there, and maybe read it a few times.

OK, let’s begin:
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You don’t have to deserve something to be deserving

agnosticLet me ask you something: do you have to deserve a body? Did you have to deserve to be able to read?

No. Deserving is much more basic, and much more profound than that kind of deserving, which would equate the word with earning.

Earning is a mercantile world’s word: it measures your work, or your merchandise against the asking price… earning.

But deserving is different, regardless how crazy that word drove me when I was a kid. My kid brother whining that he deserved whatever he was whining about.

I didn’t think I deserved anything, so he asserting that he deserved whatever, emphasized for me that I didn’t. He said he did, and I said I didn’t. It bothered me. A lot.

People around you will tell you what you deserve, but they are lying. They are playing god… Deserving comes with Life.
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Merry Christmas

Pink-RC-HelicopterIn this article I will quote the email of the most successful Internet Marketer I know. He makes many millions of dollars for himself a year, helping other entrepreneurs make even more millions for themselves. He has 30 active DNA capacities open and used every day.

I admire him. If my “product” had more mass appeal, I would hire him to work with me… but alas, my “product”, personal evolution, isn’t popular… you’ll see why in the email… you’ll see a symptom of it… he, Frank Kern talks addresses it.

OK, here is the email he wrote to his entrepreneur prospects:

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DNA capacity: Deserving… Being Deserving

bing deservingSome 12 years ago I was in a training program to lead introductory seminars… in essence sell a program in live 3-hour seminars.

The woman who trained us had a steady 80% effectiveness, meaning out of every 10 people, 8 shelled out $500 dollars to do a 3-day course.

The average number for the hundreds of introduction leaders in the world was about 20%… two out of ten attendees.

When we asked what was her secret, she said: I have an attitude: “Of course they register”.

Now, depending on where you are on the deserving scale, this probably sounds to you entitled, arrogant, or stupid wishful thinking.

Even then I knew she was onto something. I felt it. I felt that she was deserving of spending her time effectively with people who hear her. And I felt that she included every single person in that being deserving… the attendees of her introductions, and myself.
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Possibilities in Landmark Education equal DNA capacities… but does declaring a possibility turn a capacity on?

possibility-of-being-lovingThe Landmark Education shortcut that doesn’t work:

“the possibility I declare for myself and my life”
“the possibility I invent for myself and my life” ((the words that follow are: the possibility of being prosperous, happy, powerful, free, happy, passionately happy, blah blah blah… inspiring for a moment. A moment. Not even a day. I checked google and a grand total of 4 pages had the exact words… don’t you think it’s telling? I do…)) you are taught in Landmark Education. Declaration is a verbal way to speak something into being… being… not feeling, not action, but being. But it doesn’t work, unfortunately. Why? Let’s find out…

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The problem with Landmark Education

Landmark Education is the watered down brainchild of Werner Erhard.

I started participating when Werner was still part of it. He said things it’s taken me 30 years to get, but he said it. He himself was struggling with them.

Werner had 20 being capacities, which means that most of what he ever said came from thinking. Yet, 20 capacities of being is rich. In comparison, a good Landmark Forum Leader has 10 being capacities.

Joe DiMaggio has 23, Nancy Zapolski has 30 being capacities. David Cunningham: 10.
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One step of the what’s missing workshop is sobering. As in a horrible wake up call…

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While writing this article, unexpectedly, I managed to break through a self-imposed barrier I have had… It’s unexpected… Bear with me till the end, please… In this step of the What’s Missing workshop, the participants’ task is to look at … Continue reading →

Read more here:: https://yourvibration.com/21322/one-step-of-the-whats-missing-workshop-is-sobering-as-in-a-horrible-wake-up-call/

      

Why You’re Dumb, Sick, Broke, and probably miserable, fearful, and lonely

Just like the front and the back of the hand, being and action are distinct yet inseparable. Werner

Correcting language

This article tries to explain something I heard 30 years ago, and it took, till today to understand. So it’s not easy, but it has the answer to the question in the title, and it has the key you’ve been looking for, though you didn’t know what exactly you were looking for.

The reason you are unhappy, lonely, unappreciated and afraid because language directly leads there.

Only people who don’t live in their heads because they have a bigger job outside to put their attention to have ever escaped the trap that language sets for the unsuspecting and unengaged multitudes. That is you.

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The difference between feeling confident and being confident… or how you put your life in the hands of a liar

feelings-are-just-visitors-let-them-come-and-go-quote-1It’s Christmas Eve. Strong Southern wind… unusual noises… and bouts of wanting to weep. WTF? There is nothing wrong with my life, I am not connected to anyone in particular, and yet.

I muscle test if it is the Dark Side emotion transmission, and yes, it is…

Feelings come from who knows where, and yet, YOU are basing all your decisions on feelings. How utterly misguided is that?

If the feeling were: you can do it, you’d jump into an empty pool and break your neck… you and your teenagers have done that driving too fast… haven’t you? Or trying drugs saying: I am stronger than that… and get hooked. Or “one won’t hurt” of potato chips… and end up eating the whole bag.

Feelings are unreliable guidance… the source of feelings is not you, not something that even knows about you… it is outside of you.

waiting-for-good-weatherMany of you are waiting to feel confident to do anything requiring action. Or waiting for the fear to go away…
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