Change vs. what you really want
We all say we want to change. Change ourselves, our financial situation, our habits.
Some of us only use the word because we don’t know how to say what we mean. But most of us literally mean: change.
But there is a problem with the phenomenon: change. It actually gets you more of what you are changing.
It sounds like an oxymoron. More of what I don’t want? Yeah, that’s right. More of what you don’t want.
Ask anyone; the happiest moments of one’s life are the moment when we find ourselves in our vertical self… or at least centered and grounded in the bottom of it.
It doesn’t happen a lot, because we are brought up and encouraged to live in our horizontal being.
I am most famous for my ability to distinguish. Distinguishing is a rare capacity, the ability to tell the forest from the tree. It is solidly based on the ability to peel off layers so one can get to the root… and often below the level that used to be considered the root. Layer below layer below layer.
This past week I had the good fortune to go deeper yet again.
It must be January, because my Effortless Abundance bundle is selling a lot. And Unlimited Abundance, astutely, is launching this month…
January, everyone looking at their current situation and starting to organize themselves to improve what they have.
Most of the things that make sense are wrong: optimism, hope, big desires, motivation…
It’s the last day of 2014, and there is an undue optimism in the air. A stranger even said hello to me in the street…
Even more than at the beginning of spring… the calendar is telling you that hopefully 2015 will be different.
You will lose the weight, you will find the job of your dreams, you will get out of debt, you will start that business, you will find the love of your life.
Is ADD and ADHD a nature or nurture phenomenon? There is a surprising answer: we compare American and French children with regards to ADD…
Based on an article by Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D. “Why French Kids Don’t Have ADHD? French children don’t need medications to control their behavior.”
First off: what is ADD and ADHD?
Attention deficit disorder is a symptom. According to Dr. Daniel Amen, when an ADD/ADHD person wants to concentrate, at a certain point their prefrontal cortex shuts down… much like your computer crashes when you overload it.
This is a republished article from June 26, 2013… So please don’t get alarmed… this didn’t just happen. It happened long time ago. But the message is as timely as ever…
What is the opposite of reaction; is it response? Is it pro-active? Prepare to be surprised…
Gurus and even psychologists give lip service to not being reactive. They say it’s the ego’s way to take over your life. They suggest that you respond. They don’t know what they are talking about, and you, the client, suffer as a result.
Make a list of areas where wanting, your wanting dominates the situation. Where you are in the situation purely or mostly because you want something.
What can you want? What do you want? How to find it? Look for where you want
love?
attention?
friendship?
sex?
money?
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There are three categories of gurus and three types of seekers:
Category 1. The Hopeful Path: Naive, pliable, hopeful. Hoping that what you are doing is going to take you out of the misery: having feelings, and a constant battle inside between the aspects of a human being, each pulling in a different direction.They really really really want to be enlightened! Really… lol. But they know they aren’t. There is shame and guilt and sadness in their emotions, and often anguish: the fear of being caught.Ultimately you “do” this spirituality stuff to get away from being human.You fail. There is no escape… you are human, with all that comes with that territory.You are doing it all to fix a problem, and all solutions will become the next and bigger problem. You cannot fix being human… and that’s a problem for yo
Why is this happening to me? add the whiny voice… and you can hear that this is not a useful question.
On the other hand, when you can answer that question (without asking it first), it has the same effect as a light switch flicked in a dark room.
So, how do you get to the answer without first…
Go read the rest of the article http://www.yourvibration.com/13398/why-is-this-happening-to-me/