There is a myth humans hold onto, that if they stay angry and something or someone, then they are better people than who
they are angry at.
All pretense… which is bad in and of itself, but there is more…
When you are mad at something you did, or mad at someone who did something you recognize… then you are hooked.
Hooked in that angry mode of existence.
Locked in the anger, locked out of freedom, future, happiness.
As long as you hold onto that anger.
I think it may be useful to di
A student of mine lives in the same town as I do and for a while he used to drive me around to do errands.
Then I realized that it made him feel entitled to insult me on calls, so I put an end to that arrangement.
That was about two months ago.
He sent me a few emails offering rides, etc.
We even spent a few good times doing “exploring your own neighborhood” type of things, like visiting lakes and such.
Every email that he sends emphasizes that he is giving me something, asking me what I need… etc.
I stopped wanting anything.
I don’t want him to give me anything any more. I experience a feeling akin to hate or anger rising in me every time I think of him.
My regular driver is taking a break: she works at the New York State Fair for a few days, and I am driverless. I need stuff. But I won’t ask my student for help because of what I want to share with you.
If you are a perpetual and compulsive giver, you think that you are a good person, don’t you? Am I corre
Make a list of areas where wanting, your wanting dominates the situation. Where you are in the situation purely or mostly because you want something.
What can you want? What do you want? How to find it? Look for where you want
love?
attention?
friendship?
sex?
money?