Swim or sink… do or die

to be in a sink or swim situation, you first need to jumpinto the waterThis morning my main computer quietly died.

Times like this are the real tests whether the capacities are working or not.

Suddenly I had no access to anything that is on that computer, not the data, not the software, and I had a few choices: go crazy, go out of business, or bring resiliency, aka mental toughness to carry the day.

It’s Tuesday, and a few minutes after the death of my trusty computer, I went downstairs and to my weekly outing to the chiropractor and to the grocery store.

These excursions, the conversations with Sarah, the woman who drives me, and my chiropractor, could have been opportunities for complaining, and although I shared it with both, and both offered their help, I said thank you, and continued with the day like nothing happened.

I managed not to drag the issue to areas where it didn’t belong.
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Activism, reforms, revolution…

Did you know that every revolution has been, historically, just a re-shuffling of who is going to have power over who?

When I first read Osho’s book, Rebellion, Revolution and Religiousness, I actively worked on understanding.

In Hungary we learned a lot more history than American students, and I personally have seen revolution, and reform and all that never changed anything on the long run.

A lot of people repeat Osho’s words: he is very easy to repeat without understanding, without making the words yours. But I don’t believe any of those people really get what he was saying.

I am not sure he understood himself, after all 90% of what he said came from the Tree of Knowledge. ((Osho 1he had 10 spiritual capacities going for him… not a whole lot of connection between the richness of seeming experience and the number of capacities… Simply put: he could not experience all that he writes about, that is one of the ways I know he was writing from Tree of Knowledge. That doesn’t completely diminish his value to me… I still read his stuff, when I do.))

But his statements that neither revolution nor reform make any difference, are as good as gold.
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Only failures, only mistakes teach you anything useful… or how I learn from my mistakes

I have been leading a webinar for quite a while, and it has always been brilliant, both to participate in and to lead.

It has always delivered on the promise:

  1. show you what’s missing in an area of life, something that you can do something about so you can get unstuck and have that area of life be a lot better… and consequently all of your life.
  2. Effect you so strong that it would get you, or a lot of you, finally get off your ass, and into action.

It’s worked for years… and this past weekend it didn’t.

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My experiment with increasing my Life Force, Part One

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As you may have read, I discovered that my Life Force, the capacity to grow, has nearly diminished. In this article I will report to you my own experience of trying to increase a capacity through working on it. Essentially … Continue reading →

Read more here:: https://yourvibration.com/21425/my-experiment/

      

Reinventing yourself, reinventing your business, your job, your life… can you do it? How to do it…

Yesterday, on the What’s missing workshop, a participant introduced to me an expression that you’ll find very expressive: stuck in limbo. Limbo: a region of the afterlife on the border of hell, neglect, oblivion, on hold… The waiting state most people are in… they are waiting for something better, or sometimes waiting for the other shoe to drop. Either way you look at it: limbo is not a good place.

Most everyone is familiar with the feeling. You have yourself… set. You have your business… set. Your job… your life… all set, and all limited in one way or another.

So what is the limiting factor? Economy? Your education? Your skill level?

The only thing that is the common denominator in all four is your attitude to yourself, to your life, to your job, to your business.

I could have said, you are the common denominator… but then we would not quite know what we are talking about.

Because when I ask you who you are, what you’ll say will not be accurate, or will not be complete.

Are you lying? Maybe… But more likely you don’t know.

The reason they have tests to categorize you, or measure certain aspects of you, because, for the most part, you have no idea who you are, what you do, what you are capable of.
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They say: you are either growing or you are dying… but how do you go from dying into growing again?

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You can plan for survival, or you can plan for growth The most important difference, from your point of view is this: When you plan for survival, every setback threatens you with death, or poverty, or lack, or illness. When … Continue reading →

Read more here:: https://yourvibration.com/21415/growing-dying/

      

What is the spiritual work I did to raise my vibration? You can do it too…

building-resiliency-raise-your-vibrationPeople ask: what is the spiritual practice, the spiritual work that allowed me to climb up to the skinny branches of the Tree of Life, and allowed so many spiritual capacities to turn on? To raise my vibration…

All these years I’ve been asked, and all these years I didn’t know what to answer. I didn’t know what to suggest that you do, that I did, until this morning.

This morning, while and after I was leading the workshop “What’s missing” I realized something profound:

Life is not set up to challenge you to turn on new capacities. The box you live in has no room for new capacities, and offers no challenges.

So how are you going to grow?

You can learn to swim by being thrown to the deep end of the pool, and it’s life or death… sink or swim. Not a pleasant experience, and will probably scare you away from swimming again, for life.

This is when the need for a new capacity is thrown at you. You are unprepared, and you are not at your best… because of fear. Incoherent, and reactive.

It is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty… and it is too late to summon empathy, or courage, or resiliency, or other capacities when you need it, unless you already have it.

This is how it works with capacities.
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Empathy… Life’s most important capacity to master

empathy-lifes-most-essential-skillIn my inquiries, I find that more and more capacities that I’ve assumed we all have, it turns out, we don’t.

The question that has been puzzling me is why certain ethnic groups that were persecuted at any one time don’t recognize a similarly persecuted other ethnic group as comrades in suffering. Why one victim can’t and won’t give you a hoot about another victim’s misery.

I mostly see this in movies nowadays, but I used to participate in groups and in big seminars, so I have been seeing this forever.

But this was the first time I asked the question: why is this?

Are these bad people? And I guess that is what I have been stuck with until yesterday.

Yesterday I asked the question: is it a capacity to see the same fate in another?

The answer was yes. Hm… but then what is the capacity? Is it the seeing or is it the appreciating of it?
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Hijacking the conversation… inside and outside

cool-loserWhen I owned the magazine I published for 10 years, I was looking to hire an assistant.

One of the test assignments I gave to the applicant is to sort the stuff in a junk drawer. I gave them no pointers… it was a big drawer, a lot of things to sort.

Every single applicant failed to find something relevant to sort by. I finally hired a girl who was nice, but useless…

Sorting is a life skill. Deciding on a relevant criteria to sort by is a life skill.

I learned life-skills in Landmark Education.

Previously I was like a nerd, an idiot savant.

One of the life-skill I learned is to be able to keep to what is relevant, to what belongs to the conversation.

In meetings at Landmark, they choose a “conversation manager”.

The two jobs of the conversation manager is to

  1. keep people to say only what belongs to the conversation
  2. to make sure that everything said forwards the conversation towards resolution.

I am always dumbfounded by people’s inability to see what belongs to a conversation.

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