I have worked for myself for the past 40 years with a short, three-year stint working for the City of Jerusalem…

But even there, it was both clear and unclear to me that the number one skill to make a living is the ability to sell… in person, on the phone, on a video, or in writing.

In fact… it is not just a skill you need to make a living… it is a skill needed to make a life…

Because either you sell them… or they sell you….

I’d rather be the seller, thank you very much.

Now, why am I telling you this? Continue reading →

Coherence

I just moved my sites to a new, bigger server… made the jump after about eight months of waffling… I waffled because of the money, waffled because of the technical challenge, waffled because I didn’t want to do it…

But on New Year’s Eve I did it, and was bracing what was going to be a lot of work, but more importantly a rare occasion for me to face the tiger: I am not the smartest person on the planet.

Not even close.

I never was… by the way. But since i have repurposed my brain cells to do the inner work for seeing, I feel stupider, if that is even possible, than before. Continue reading →

Confession: You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me

One of your most defining characteristics as a person is, whether you are an optimist or a pessimist.

But the common, and ordinary way to look at those attitudes is inane… ((inane: stupid, moronic)) as in stupid and near-sighted.

Most words are defined with unreality as their focus… when you’ll start to see it, that is when your vocabulary start to hit the level where you can actually see some of reality, not just the “map” of reality. Continue reading →

When the world is your oyster, you have a world that can create pearls for you, valuable pearls for you life… That is the meaning of the expression. You just have to create irritation in that world, a difficulty, like the grain of sand in the actual oyster and it starts building a pearl (value) for you.

As long as you shy away from controversy, difficulty, hardship, pain, etc… the world won’t offer you its pearls…

I have been listening to old, 5-6 year old recordings. For most teachers their talks would not be old… they have been, habitually, saying the same tired Tree of Knowledge stuff forever… but for me, they are fresh and surprising. Most of it I wish I remembered. Continue reading →

Here is one… what makes it stand out is the passion, and the using of sound effects… her own voice, really authentic… I really loved it.

Read the original article: Amazing TED talks to enrich your concept of emotions, feelings, and self-image

If what we need is a larger vocabulary so we don’t fall into the trap of the mind where everything is the same as everything else, that it makes a lot of sense to start, as soon as you can, building a larger vocabulary.

With every new word a large chunk of the invisible reveals itself… priceless.

Here is the first word:

Jaunty. 1. könnyed and 2. vidám in Hungarian, I have to admit that in the past 37 years since I left Hungary, I haven’t seen anyone Jaunty… Maybe I saw them obnoxiously loud and too much smiling… but jaunty?

Jaunty is having or expressing a lively, cheerful, and self-confident manner, cheerful, cheery, happy, merry, jolly, joyful, gleeful, glad. It is not the forced jolliness of pretense. And it is not the drunken glibness of the party. It is beautiful and it is natural. And I am, occasionally that, but haven’t had a word for it.

When I look at people’s reaction to it, they cheer up and smile with you… Continue reading →

Here is a suggestion for your first 20-day skill building challenge:

Clean up your life, in just 20 days… with the “not giving a f*** method

Priceless. Brilliant. It works…

Read the original article: Priceless suggestion for a project for the 20-day challenge

This is an important post… Either read it thoroughly, or just skip it… Please. OK?

Every Sunday morning, for the past 12 years, I have been having a 90 minute conversation with a guy who I met at Pam Ragland’s Quantum Thought Shifting course back in 2007.

I have been recording those calls… I call them Sunday Rants… because that is, pretty much, my only chance to rant and rave about things, people, frustrations, disappointments, and return to sanity, week after week. Continue reading →

OK, confession time: I have never inspired a challenge, and I am not exceptionally good at doing anything like this, but…

But with the limited knowledge and experience I have, let me share with you some of the ideas of winning, and some of the reasons for failing I know will come up:

1. it is your life. It is your 20 days. You start when you are ready to start. And don’t forget: you do it for yourself!

How do you know you are ready? Continue reading →