If transformation is due to the change in what you see then the most important thing to change is your view.

Your view of anything is what you actually see without resistance. Mostly a tiny bit of what is there… and you base your whole world view on that tiny bit.

Your language, your behavior, your facial expression can reveal the your view of self you are trying to hide.

Your language, the words you use, your tone of voice, reveals your inner coherence, and all the unreality you consider reality, your attitude, your haughtiness, your delusion… everything. Continue reading →

Your vibration, your creativity, your truth value all depends on your cone of vision… But until you see that you have a narrow cone of vision, that you look at things with narrow cone of vision, or a narrow filter, you won’t want to make it wider.

Wide cone of vision means inclusive… narrow cone of vision is exclusive… exclusive of areas that you KNOW don’t matter, don’t belong, or you don’t like them. Exclusive because you KNOW the answer…

The most exciting insights first show up in the corner of your eyes… Which means they are literally outside of your cone of vision.

One way I see this is how attached you are to one area of life, or one way to do it, or one problem you have.
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Prologue

I woke up disgruntled… almost ready to go into devastation (which is my “home page”) but it all changed as I sat down and began to write. What was going to be a rant, became a celebration.

I guess I wasn’t stuck with or invested in resisting being someone who rants when I feel beaten, or slighted, or hurt… It seems that I accepted, embraced, and it got out of my face… All unconscious competence, by the way. I didn’t have to sit around and analyze it… it just happened. …and I could look and see the whole picture… as much as I can see from it.

This is exactly what I teach in the Playground… this is the goal: unconscious competence in getting unstuck, and being able to see the whole reality, with all its beauty and all its ugliness.

The article:

Go beyond where you normally stop… But where? How? Show me the path…

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As you know, I have been learning the difference between information and transformation the hard way…

Even though I have “known” this difference already ten years ago (I have a video of myself to prove it,) even the knowledge of that isn’t transformation.

Transformation is when your actions are consistent with the new knowledge, consistently.

My basic training is architecture, and my five year training, plus the two years to do all the calculations (a second graduate degree), it was all about doing, very little about knowing.

I had classmates who knew all the formulas, but couldn’t solve the problems. I could solve all the problems, if someone gave me the formulas, which I consistently and stubbornly refused to memorize. Continue reading →

Your soul, your spirit, knows right from wrong

If it only had an opportunity to talk to you, to be heard, you’d probably consider stopping doing the wrongs that you do, if only to have peace inside, to have less tension, to have more joy.

The two selves we all have are twins separated at birth… one grows according to DNA, the other according to outside influences… nature vs. nurture.

The further “nurture” makes the one twin (self) go, the worse the relationship becomes, the more, whenever they get to see each other, the one hates the other. Which one is doing the hating, you ask? Continue reading →

Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core… So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life… and I am moved by that ((Sandy Koufax was Jewish, and his attitude was what made Jews survive all those thousands of years of exile, all the persecution, and come out, when they did, on top… ))

It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn’t quite distinguish the path, doesn’t look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable…

It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.

You can’t catch what you can’t see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.

Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.

Until you can… and to the degree that you can’t… everything is the same for you as everything else… you are a bumbling idiot when it comes to life. Continue reading →

It is, it has been hard to see, but I think I can see it now.

You want to get without giving. Anything, if possible, a thank you at most… so that

• You shouldn’t have to reciprocate
• You shouldn’t have to pay attention
• You shouldn’t have to do anything for what you want… especially not something that another person will or may benefit from

The worst of human nature is starting to take over…

You could call it stinginess… but I think we have gone past that stage… stingy was nice compared to… wait for it…

Circuitry: blocking even the chance of thinking about any energy going to the other… Block the flow…

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I think that most, or at least, many children are born with a much higher potential than what they will actually live out.

It’s been that way from the beginning of time. Some of these children, like myself, are allowed to grow like a weed. Attention, the attention of the lesser ability adults that try to pass on their world view destroys the potential of these children.

• It is said that we live in special times.
• That nowadays more children than ever before are born with some additional strands of DNA…
• That children retain their ability to see the invisible, hear the invisible, feel the invisible.

I don’t think this is the case. I think that in every age people were born closer to what could be considered “the next evolution” but got reduced back to “normal” by their loving parents, by their caring teachers, or by a hostile society that doesn’t tolerate being different.

Of course this day and age, where humanity has no power, no purpose, no individuality, we are trying to make ourselves more special by claiming that our children are special… after all they are OUR children.
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Share your incidents, success incidents with giving the fireplace wood before you expect/receive heat

It puzzles me to no end how difficult it is for humans to grok principles.

Principles are timeless, culture-free truths… the kind that is true everywhere… and has been true forever.

Rules, hypotheses, theories are cultural, dated, and rarely even true in the environment where they are first invented.

Like democracy… or what is right and what is wrong… and 97% of what you read in “informative” articles, courses, books, on the internet.

They may even hint on the some principle, like Michael Gladwell’s books, or the Grit book, or many others… hint… hinting is not saying! They don’t quite know what the principle is, or it may not be politically correct in this day and age. Or not sexy. Or won’t sell books.

Just observe your refusal to consider any true principle… and you’ll get why those articles and those “authors” put their emphasis on sexy… because you won’t read it unless it is innocuous (not considered harmful or offensive) and in some ways tells you that you are greater than you are…

But occasionally I see a comment here and there, when a student saw something for a moment… and is now puzzled, surprised, amazed that the principle produced a result that seemed impossible before they read my article with the principle.

In this article I’d like to solicit shares like that…

I will consider those shares a flash in the pan… but still valuable.

What is flash in the pan? I participated in landmark education for 26 years.

Landmark is a sharing type of education: they want you to share in classes, and with everyone in your life.

Sharing is not talking about: sharing is allowing the other to taste your triple chocolate cake, not just your story about it.

A good share is built like this:

1. Before the article/distinction/principle life was like this
2. Then I got the distinction X… explain distinction
3. After the distinction this is was life became… an incident that shows that the distinction/principle actually changed something when applied.

Now, if you could live as if that principle lead your life, then it would not be a flash in the pan result… But until you completely own your dark side, you can’t. I have a good article about this (another principle) here https://yourvibration.com/37750/not-able-to-sustain-transformation/

OK, so what do I want you to do?

I want you to do the best you can, including reading and re-reading articles with principles, and asking questions if you need to.

My monthly Open Microphone is a great time to do that… if you want me to talk long and deep.

I do have some examples but here is a new one…

OK, this is what she wrote: that suggestion of yours for me to cook my husband his favourite meal..
since then he has been learning how to cook me stuff on my menu…
it’s too sweet.. like our relationship feels cosier?? not sure if that is the Affinity.
but it feels nice.

this is not a format that makes sense of the principle, so let’s see how it would look put into the best format that tells the whole story:

• before: I have to eat in a particularly weird way to be well… And I have been pursuing it for quite some time.
  At the same time I am a wife and a mother, and I have been steadfast maintaining being pissed at my “boys”.
• distinction/principle: you suggested that I give firewood to the fireplace before I expect it to give me heat… One action consistent with that is cooking my husband his favorite meal… even though I can’t eat it.
• Unexpected result: my husband suddenly learning how to cook my special dishes I have on my eating list… And I am suddenly filled with gratitude or something like that… love? affinity? no works yet, but we feel closer and it feels nice.

Now, what is the use of doing all this work?

The structure I recommend serves two purposes, the more important of the two, is that YOU get what is the source of the result: the distinction or the principle. Not some person, not some course, not your husband… but you getting and applying a distinction or a principle.

It should be easy, but today’s world doesn’t want you to get clear… and you normally don’t.

Using this structure will get you clearer every time you use it.

I learned it in 1992, and my growth really began earnestly then.

Here is another principle: you can look at the same life situation from a different principle, and produce similar results.

There is more than one way to skin a cat.

Another principle, part of the invisible realm of reality, say that you always have a payoff and a cost when you do something and it is ineffective.

So if it is a principle, truly, then the same exact situation can be examined through that principle and found true.

So what was the setup?

• before: I have to eat in a particularly weird way to be well… And I have been pursuing it for quite some time.
  At the same time I am a wife and a mother, and I have been steadfast maintaining being pissed at my “boys”.
  The level of cooperation is low, the level of affinity (love) is low… so I must have a payoff…
• distinction/principle: I can see that the payoff is me being right that I am slighted, that I am left out, that other people are having fun eating and I have to eat the boring stuff Sophie prescribed for me… I am right, I am pissed, and I’ll justify my nasty, uncaring behavior well, thank you very much.

  I am also looking at the cost, and affinity (love) is a two way street… I like to get love, so I am willing to give up being right and justified… And get generous (giving) to test it out. I cook my husband favorite dish…

• Unexpected result: I am surprised to find that his attitude towards me and my weird diet has changed, and he is learning to cook MY way… and I can even feel some affection, some affinity, dare I say LOVE to be in the air?

Same result using two invisible principles… and there are more principles, invisible dynamics, where these two came from.

The hard part, really, is tell a principle from something else, like a good idea.

So, this is a request and a suggestion that you start sharing.

If it goes well, I’ll open up a new forum on the discussion forum to create a private and safe environment for you.

For now please comment, or if you are shy, email me your share.

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