You live in a world of your own design. And you create the world with your beingness.
We think that beingness is all good… But beingness is neutral.
One of the beingnesses we are really familiar with is BEING judgmental. Or the flip side of it (they always go together, like the two sides of the coin!) BEING judged.
Both are beings.
Which is more frequent? They are the two sides of the same coin: judgment. Pretending that you have the right and the power over life and death…
Change vs. what you really want
We all say we want to change. Change ourselves, our financial situation, our habits.
Some of us only use the word because we don’t know how to say what we mean. But most of us literally mean: change.
But there is a problem with the phenomenon: change. It actually gets you more of what you are changing.
It sounds like an oxymoron. More of what I don’t want? Yeah, that’s right. More of what you don’t want.
Recently I found myself finding my life blah. So I set out to regain my will to live… because with blah comes no will to leave, much like when you are forced to eat tasteless food, you lose your will to eat.
I also noticed that the color faded from my language. People stopped complimenting me on the turn of phrases, the expressions, the metaphors I used… because I stopped using them.
I am very lucky: the questions my students send me have caused me to have a deeper understanding for my own work.
These students are often seeking new insights in their pressing circumstances from me. Lately it is all about making a decision to go or leave, to let go or to fight.
It is a huge responsibility to talk to people who are looking for answers.
If they use the insights I give them and don’t make them their own, they run the risk of making a decision “because” I said so.
One of my students asked “is it a matter of meditating over this decision now?”
This particular student has been a meditator for five years. The particular form of meditation he is doing with some master is to open up his ability to gain insight from All-of-it.
And this seemingly intelligent move, to meditate to gain insight is what I want to talk about today.
If you are a “normal” human being, brought up by parents or caregivers, if you went to school, if
My takeaways from session One of my skill workshop
Some of my students are struggling to make real headway in the world, because they haven’t been able to see where their abilities could make them a success.
Although I haven’t lead the “What color is your parachute” skill finder workshop …
The first Osho book I have ever read, was Maturity. I started to read it in the store, and fell in love with it.
It echoed one of my favorite Landmark courses, the Wisdom Course.
In that course, maturity was a state (they call it possibility, just a Landmark word!): where you were using adult capacities to live your life.
One would think that when you are an adult you use your adult capacities, but that is not the case.
Ask anyone; the happiest moments of one’s life are the moment when we find ourselves in our vertical self… or at least centered and grounded in the bottom of it.
It doesn’t happen a lot, because we are brought up and encouraged to live in our horizontal being.
I have been observing people for about 30 years… I have participated with thousands. I have coached thousands. I have been friends with a few.
There has been one thing in common with all of them: they picked and chose what they wanted to do, so they never succeeded.
I observed the same thing on myself, and to the degree that it is there, to the degree someone won’t amount to anything, won’t amount to much.
I read quite a few sales letters a day, ((I am most interested in marketing)) mostly because I am interested… not in buying, but …
Yesterday I did some teaching with some people and the stuff didn’t go through. I am at a point where I am questioning if anything can be taught, if any change can be accomplished, if the current humanity is even able to go to the next level of evolution.
In this article we are going to look at pretense, and what it cost you. It cost you more than it gains you… but the biggest cost is that you are stuck and you can’t go to the next level.
“All the colors I am inside have not been invented yet,” wrote Shel Silverstein, in his children’s book *Where the Sidewalk Ends.* It’s especially important for you to focus on that truth in the coming weeks. I say this for two reasons. First, it’s imperative that you identify and celebrate a certain unique aspect of yourself that no one else has ever fully acknowledged. If you don’t start making it more conscious, it may start to wither away. Second, you need to learn how to express that unique aspect with such clarity and steadiness that no one can miss it or ignore it
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In the last blog post I spoke about all the ways you hide that you are a human, unwilling to be caring, loving, nice, accommodati