If it sounds true, it is probably false. If it sounds not true: it is possibly how it is…

divide-and-conquer-how-to-control-a-nationI watched something yesterday that allowed me to have a new insight about the Irish. Note: this is not about the Irish, and not about the Italian, and not about the Chinese… This article is to allow you a glimpse into the dynamic of war, vengeance, the eye for an eye…

The more temperamental a group is, the easier it is to dominate them, to play them, to incite them to kill, go to war.

The Irish is a temperamental bunch, and the killing, terrorism, has been going on for many centuries.

Yesterday I asked myself: would the Irish self-destruct, stop their human evolution, remain a bunch of wildmen, without an outside interference. The answer was: probably not.

One of the tools of war, one of the tools of self-defense, is the divide and conquer principle. ((divide and conquer (or rule)
phrase of divide

1.
the policy of maintaining control over one’s subordinates or subjects by encouraging dissent between them.))

Incite discord between two groups, and let them kill each other instead of you.
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More on being locked out… I am handing you the key

thumbSome 10 years ago I did a year long course, called Partnership Explorations. It was intense, incomprehensible, and difficult.

Yet, it had an aspect that caused me to have an insight that was directly responsible for the breakthrough that you live with me, now.

The course was some talk, and a lot of collages.

A collage is an artwork… normally. But in the Partnership Explorations course it was a tool to get a new insight about life, about ourselves.

In one collage I wanted to show that I was locked out. I was locked out of the kind of life I saw people enjoy: parties, kissing, love.
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Locked in? locked out? limited?

we feel locked out from most nice things in lifeIn Hungary, in some high schools, you can choose, at age 15-ish to pursue “real” or “humanities”.

Real is sciences, reasoning, math, physics, geometry, chemistry heavy.

Humanities… lots of words, I think. I chose “real” for myself.

I was bad at everything that talks ABOUT stuff, and great, sometimes exceptional in the non-verbal subjects.

Architects don’t talk either. Don’t listen either. So, in that regard it was a good match, and yet, I wasn’t happy.

I guess I wanted to think with words too. In every project I was chosen to write the written stuff… I was good with words.

Why am I sharing this? Because pursuing one thing limits us to the capacities that are needed to do that one thing.

Limited. One of the least favorite of words in the dictionary.

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Taking things personally

dont-take-it-personally2The hardest thing to navigate, at least for me, is to take myself out of the center… Maybe because of my soul correction “Forget Thyself” but it comes back to make me miserable periodically.

I have been testy lately.

I have always wanted to be significant. Do significant things. Be admired… blah blah blah.

What I didn’t realize that like everything ego desire based, desire to receive for the self alone, it has a shadow side.

When you are significant, and someone doesn’t give you what you think they are supposed to… you are angry and miserable.

So this is what has been going on…

Please listen with compassion… or not… it’s really up to you. But if you can listen with compassion, you may learn something that can make a difference for you… If you listen with judgment, your misery will deepen… I will be fine either way.
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There is no such thing as a free lunch… you need to earn it. Somehow

free_lunchThe concept of earning it, earning the light, earning the capacity

People who come to me don’t know that you cannot have anything long without earning it.

In Kabbalah they talk about the advance of Light… that you lost with interest… if you don’t do what you promised to do.

I learned this the hard way: I promised to send a stack of postdated checks as a donation to the Kabbalah Centre. Then I realized that it wasn’t going to work for me, and didn’t send the checks.

When I made the promise, the result was almost instant: I got several orders, and I made a lot of money that day.

Then, when I decided not to send the checks, the refund requests came, I hurt my back and had to see a chiropractor every day for two weeks, and my car broke down needing repair.
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Courage: a paradigm away

nietzsche-quote-paradigmsI had an interesting insight yesterday: you don’t know what it feels like to have courage available to you.

When you apply courage, it just feels like you are doing what you are doing, what you were afraid of. Normal.

Which indicates to me, that courage is a paradigm-shifter.

Paradigm is like a glass ceiling. A one-side mirror. When you are in a higher paradigm, you can see what is below you, but if you are still in a lower paradigm, you cannot see what’s above. In fact you don’t know there is something, anything.

truman show comparison with JesusIn The Truman Show, Truman didn’t know there is a whole world outside of what he knew… He had to get to a point where he suspected, and then where he walked through that door. So it is a process in a way… not a moment.

So, like with everything, there is a period of getting ready.
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Why my “system” seems so unorganized… hard to follow… and more

puzzle-731x1024Please read my email exchange with an exceptional student of mine…

I want you to learn something from it: my process, how to write intelligent emails (not mine, lol) and how to look at my articles in a constructive way.

Also, if you are someone like a doctor, a scientist, my method probably drives you crazy… I seem disorganized, have no answers to many questions… I have had people quit my programs complaining about that.

I this article I explain why things are the way they are, why I work the way I work… It’s obvious that it’s not for everybody… no clear cut anything…. 🙁

Lot to learn:

Dear Sophie

Could it be: — If Courage gives you strength to stand up to the fear of unknown. Then Self-Trust must give you strength to handle whatever comes next. So maybe both of these capacities are a Base.
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The role of half truths in no evolution of the human race

bullshitAs I am dealing with the issue of courage, I realized something that I had never quite seen before:

All the quotes, all the memes, all the nice sayings on the internet have one function only: to make you stay the same.

And by same I mean driven by ego, fear, cowardice, slothfulness, superiority, pretense… etc.

Now, that is a bold statement, after all those quotes and memes, and nice sayings, and even coaching claim and sound and look inspiring. And therein lies the mischief:

They suggest that you can just simple want it more, choose it, believe it and then you can have it… whatever they are suggesting you can have.

  • Peace of mind
  • Intelligence
  • Money
  • Relationship
  • Happiness
  • Being your own boss

Now, we can argue if arrogance and speaking from ignorance are evil… but hey, this is my blog, and I will just say what is true for me: both arrogance and speaking from ignorance are evil.
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What is the true stumbling block preventing you from going from A to B?

stumbling-blockI have been wrong.

I have been wrong in thinking that humility is the ultimate stumbling block. It seems that humility can help the mind withdraw from the “I don’t need to hear this I already know everything” stance, and allow you to learn, and use your other faculties.

But I can now see, that without courage first activated, present and in working order, humility won’t be accepted, because it takes courage to get out of the mind.

I hate that this is so… after all I spent so much time attempting to activate humility, with no success.

So we are down to courage…

What is courage really?

And is courage also dependent on some other capacity?
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What or who makes the decisions in your life? About important things…

seneca quote for memesWhat or who makes the decisions in your life? About important things…

This question is long overdue.

It came up because of the conversation I was having with 10 of my best students.

How to be in the face of fear.

I bet you know that it takes courage to grow. Growth means growing into uncharted territory. For you, not uncharted in general, uncharted for you. Much like going to shop in the supermarket on the other side of town… it will have largely the same products, but arranged in different ways.

I suggested that courage is the tool you can bring to this fear-party to counter fear…

One of my best students asked for a time-out, which is a covert way to say: I want to quite… for a while, or maybe forever.
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