Frames… what they are, and how they limit your success, your happiness, your health…

Everybody talks about subconscious beliefs, but I have seen no evidence that there is such a thing. On the other hand almost no one is talking about what’s REALLY limiting you in life: your frames.

If you call something that it is not, you take away the power from the individual… and set them up to pay through the nose, and still remain the same.

Some people are masterful with frames, and their wealth is a testament to that… Tony Robbins is one of these guys.

I have been listening to this investment banker, Oren Klaff, who wrote a book (Pitch Anything) and is now speaking to crowds successfully. ((

If you want to read a book or two… what Oren Klaff calls frame, others call context. The two words mean the same… but there are more books on context than on frames. Meager pickings… 🙁 ))

His job is do or die… raise the money or die… every day.

Or as a public speaker, raise the enthusiasm of the crowd… or die.

What’s his secret?

Frames. Controlling the frames inside which people listen to him. Continue reading →

Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?

Life is best lived where what you want for yourself is a side effect.

I know, for half of humanity that sounds like liberal nonsense… but this is how life becomes the most enjoyable, and maybe the most “life-earning” as well, in spite of it being counter intuitive.

And this is true in every area of life…

I can’t write a better article on this than Zat Rana here.

What I can write best is the wretchedness of going straight for what you want, and quitting when anyone else benefits… And I can share how this… getting what i need as a side effect, consciously, has been one of the secrets of my inner peace, fulfillment, and happiness.

Some 15 years ago I started studying Kabbalah, an ancient body of thought. The truth value of Kabbalah is about 30%, while most other “ancient” teachings are less than 10% truth value, so if you have a large body of knowledge yourself, have read hundreds or thousands of books, have degrees, etc. You are somewhat safe in studying Kabbalah. Continue reading →

And the winner is: innocence… what most of my readers want assistance with

Innocence is a lot like freedom: you can have freedom from and you can have freedom for…

And then there is BEING Freedom, Being Free… a sacred state of being… a context, that is available at any time for people whose word and Self connect strongly. Whose word creates their beingness.

Same with innocence… there is innocence from, I bet this is what my readers have in mind, then there is innocence for…

And then there is INNOCENCE… a state of being. Having been untouched by the “stuff” that makes you dirty, discolored, jaded, altered, and prejudiced.

I live in that state of innocence 30% of my awake time. The rest of the time: I am judging, reacting, or know already… just like you.

One of my all time favorite movies is The Guru. When I am low, when I am depressed, losing faith in humanity, in my ability to make a difference, I make a point of watching it. It’s about THAT innocence: it washes me clean of all that could make be dirty if remained on me.

I have been saving it for myself… not trusting that you can get it: the main characters are porn actors… act and screw for a living.

You would think that screwing for a living makes you jaded, or dirty, or take away your innocence, but it is not necessarily so.

In fact, it isn’t the activity, it isn’t what happens in the visible that destroys your innocence: it is what happens on the inside.

Everything that comes from society, all the meanings, all the judgments, all the rules, all the “Tree of Knowledge” stuff, makes you not innocent, makes you “dirty” inside.

Just observe your reaction to the fact that in the movie “The Guru” the main characters are porn actors… If you did have a reaction, it is a clear sign that you have lost your innocence.

All loss of innocence comes from meaning.

Things are no longer “It is what it is”, they are meaningful. They are positive or negative. Good or bad. Right or wrong. Proper or improper. Nice or not. Innocence is gone with any of these meanings.

If you look, your life has hundreds of incidents, that you now have an opinion about.

You may think things positive and negative, and try to avoid what you call negative, negative words, negative people, negative anything, and pile up the positive… You are as corrupted as it comes. Maybe already too far gone to be “saved” and returned to innocence.

In life you are eating the menu, and can’t even taste the food…

Things are covered up by meanings, and you can’t see them… only the meanings.

I am not religious, and especially not a Christian, but the following words resonate with me, because I have experienced the truth myself:

He said, “…unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven.”

I don’t know what the church teaches this means, and honestly I don’t much care. I’ll tell you what it actually means:

1. The only sin, the original sin, is accepting another’s interpretation, another’s meaning of what is good and what is evil. The original sin… that the bible identifies as “eating from the tree of knowledge.”. the moment you don’t look at things as they are, but as they are said they are… you lost your innocence, and you are corrupted.

2. The Kingdom of Heaven is Heaven on Earth… being happy, fulfilled, joyful while you are alive…

So how do we do it?

I had a lot of stuff happen to me, and I was a miserable excuse for a human for many many decades.

When I started to volunteer at the Landmark (Werner Erhard and Associates) offices back in 1986, I was told by staff members that I took up space, and didn’t provide any.

In the language of my Starting Point Measurements, I had a very high about-me score, 70%.

I spent another 25 years doing all the work diligently in Landmark… and yet, I wasn’t getting much happier.

The turning point for me in the Partnership Explorations Course, where you needed to do “tons” of collages. And one of those collages showed me the before meaning, the placing meaning, and the after meaning, as I was making the collage during class… because who has time to do “tons” of collages, right? So I had to make up all the homework while others could give all their attention to the course leader…

But because my attention was divided, maybe, much like when I play Freecell, I could see how the process corrupted my view of life.

I was doing a collage with the theme: I am locked out… locked out of the finer things in life.

The first thing I did is glued pictures of people partying, having a grand time on some poolside. And then I cut thin black strips from a magazine page, and carefully created the separation… me on this side, the party on the other side.

It was obvious: I wasn’t locked out. I locked myself out, with my meaning.

When I looked over my “tons” of collages, I saw the same thing: my meaning put on top of reality, on what was actually happening.

Had there been a Playground course in 1986, I would have become innocent during its 12 months, guaranteed. Muscle test confirms in.

But there was no Playground then, and there is no Playground in Landmark’s curriculum. Not a money maker… happy people don’t throw their money away… happy people are happy to be happy, build themselves, build a business, build a family that is also happy.

I have priced MY Playground as if it were a 10-day course… Maybe two webinars, no other goodies.

But I have done these webinars before, and the results weren’t there… so I have wizened up, and added two additional elements that when used, make the course 10 times more potent, and start producing innocence faster.

The pull of society to maintain its value, its good and evil, its meaning, is tremendous. Especially around holidays. Thanksgiving and Christmas are the worst… because all the pretense love, and all the pretense gratitude. Ugh.

I expect to have double workload after this holiday to return people to their intention: happiness, heaven on earth, becoming little children to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.

I am making the Playground a standard offering from now on.

Women and men are separated. Both current groups have five members… and I’d love to add one ne person to each… one of the new features is pairing students up so they can practice dropping the meaning and looking at what is the reality.

The reality is what little children see… innocently. There is never any suffering, never anything wrong in reality. All that suffering, all the wrong is added by you or other people. It doesn’t belong to the fact, doesn’t belong to reality.

Don’t be mistaken: it takes some sharp eyes, and some (a lot of) practice to see what is real and what is added. That is why the course is one year long.

One of my students, Amy, said it best: consider that by doing the Playground (if you are accepted) you have the opportunity to earn a PhD in just one year… Wouldn’t you go for it?

Read the original article: And the winner is: innocence… what most of my readers want assistance with

“What you would seem to be, be really.” Russian Proverb

Your elbow is close, yet you can’t bite it… another Russian proverb…

Your mind says: I am not enough… it has been saying it for a long time… but nothing has changed.

It is Monday Morning and I am already not enough.

I just read the Monday Morning Memo, and it answered my nagging question: why am I not more successful? And answered it in a way that turned me into a heap of meat: I can’t do what it tells people to do… put sentences the way he says…

I can’t. I’ll never amount to much… maybe it’s time to pack it in.

I am pondering what he teaches, I am pondering my inability, I am pondering how I can live, have the audacity to live, now that I know.

I am pondering, as always, while I play Freecell, a computer card game. A completely impossible setup solves itself… I win the game. Continue reading →

To what degree do you fulfill others’ expectations of you?

I had an experience this morning that made me look and made me ponder.

The number of times my site is recommended by google has dropped to one third in the past two-three months.

I wasn’t sure why… so yesterday they told me: it is because I am not getting any visitors from Pinterest. That is weird… why would I want get any visitors from Pinterest, and if I did… what would they want on my site? I don’t sell clothes, pretty nick-knacks… that is what Pinterest users want, right? Pretty stuff…

So I looked up my stats software and I found that I had 51 visitors from Pinterest. They stayed anywhere from 1 second to 3 seconds, meaning: they weren’t interested in what I have to offer, not in the least. Continue reading →

Soaring together… a dream that was NEVER going to come true, just has

I am having second thoughts about sharing this information, because Stendahl said about love… and the fragility of the salt crystals of love… ((4. Love is born.

To love–that is to have pleasure in seeing, touching, feeling, through all the senses and as near as possible, an object to be loved and that loves us.

5. The first crystallisation begins.

The lover delights in decking with a thousand perfections the woman of whose love he is sure: he dwells on all the details of his happiness with a satisfaction that is boundless. He is simply magnifying a superb bounty just fallen to him from heaven,–he has no knowledge of it but the assurance of its possession.

Leave the mind of a lover to its natural movements for twenty-four hours, and this is what you will find.

At the salt mines of Salzburg a branch stripped of its leaves by winter is thrown into the abandoned depths of the mine; taken out two or three months later it is covered with brilliant crystals; the smallest twigs, those no stouter than the leg of a sparrow, are arrayed with an infinity of sparkling, dazzling diamonds; it is impossible to recognise the original branch.

I call crystallisation the operation of the mind which, from everything which is presented to it, draws the conclusion that there are new perfections in the object of its love.

A traveller speaks of the freshness of the orange groves at Genoa, on the sea coast, during the scorching days of summer.–What pleasure to enjoy that freshness with her!

Like Stendahl, I never had the good/bad fortune before to have personal feelings for anyone… except for yearning… that others call love, but I just call yearning… bad as it is.))

I made a dietary mistake on Monday. You know, the kind your voices scream in your head: “you only live once”… or maybe the way Madame de Pompadour said, lover of the French king Louis XV “Après moi, le deluge!” After me the flood… sloppy translation but you can get the gist… f*** it, I want to do what I want to do even if it destroys the earth… or my health.”

Anyway, the same mistake at age younger than mine may not be a big deal, but being a fragile 71, it nearly killed me.

My eating style… the “how” and “when” of eating that in my experience is more important, and harder to keep than the what… is being a separator, or the new word for it: Alternating.

The food I ate had three problems:
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Explained… the only path to happiness is…

Explained: That is the name of one of my favorite shows on Netflix.

We all walk around with some approximate knowledge of things… we know absolutely nothing exactly, deeply. At best we remember what we read, heard, but that is second hand knowledge. In a world where PhD’s have 7-10% truth value, second hand knowledge is virtually worthless. Even if you had the ability to repeat word for word what they said, your knowledge would be still just 7-10% truth value… sound dismal, doesn’t it?

So we are bumbling idiots in a world that is too big and too complicated, and unpredictable, and fuzzy for our taste… and we bang ourselves up, repeatedly, for no other reason than that we didn’t know. Continue reading →

Alive Inside

I have been going to Senior exercise classes for two years now, and my life has a high point every week: the exercise class.

I just watched a documentary and I found out why. The documentary is introducing music through personal headphones and ipods to people with Alzheimer’s and dementia, showing that they come alive, and their memories, at least temporarily, return, and with it their sense of being a person, and joy.

I live in silence… and dance at the exercise class. I don’t have a radio, don’t have a TV, so I don’t listen to music, but when I accidentally do… I party. I celebrate… OK, too much information? ok… I shut up.

Read the original article: Alive Inside

What is the 91% linchpin that keeps your foot nailed to the floor? Can you guess?

My job is a lot like tuning a car… but a car that has 160 adjustable parts… like a human… not so easy…

I love the joke about the guy who brings his car to the mechanic because it doesn’t work properly. The mechanic opens the hood, listens to the motor running, goes to his toolbox, picks out a big hammer and hits the motor, and voila the noise stops.

Then he writes a bill for $500. 500 dollars? cries the customer? for one hit with the hammer? Oh, you want an itemized bill? No problem. says the mechanic, and writes: hit with a hammer: $1. Knowing where to hit: $499.

I am that mechanic.

All the problems are invisible to the naked eye, maybe even to an X-ray machine! So it’s taken me seven years to learn where to hit… $1… learning it, a lifetime of experience and expensive learning: $499.

The sticky part

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Principle: Make your plane land on the landing strip, regardless of the weather

make your plane go where you want it to goI have been “harping” on this with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest…

If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff… what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference… in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.

I even used to use this capacity (oh, forgot to say, it’s a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category…

For you Everything is the same as everything else … except not always

Universally missing capacity… I found out.  The underlying capacity can be said with these words: be able to tell the forest for the trees. Continue reading →