I am depleted. Where did my energy go?

I could say “I am depleted” as I have always said: I am running on empty. I could also say: I feel emotionally and intellectually empty. But like you, I can benefit from adding to my vocabulary of state-expressing words, and feeling-indicating words.

When I don’t feel energized, when I am not full of creativity and when I don’t have three new articles almost ready to write, when I don’t feel like I have new programs to launch, then eventually I start to wonder, maybe even worry.

It’s not like me to have nothing to say.

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Understanding, mental representation, wrapping your mind around things

What big words, Sophie… ugh. Mental representation? huh? ((We could say safely, that until you can visualize what you say you want to do, you won’t do it, or you won’t do it well. Procrastinators are especially weak in mental representation skills… that is probably why they procrastinate.))

But it is important to understand what your words mean, the words you use.

I am not sure what understanding is… I never use this word about myself. I either get it or I don’t. I either see it or I don’t. And something I cannot see how it connects to other things… but I don’t use my “mind” to approach things. Continue reading

Process conscious vs result conscious… fulfillment every day vs one day someday

I have a brain that is a pattern seeking machine.

A pattern is when something is repeating, form, essence, pitch, sequence, day of the week, month of the year, etc… something that connects seemingly unconnected things together.

Seeing patterns can save lives, and animals living in the wild still have the capacity, but humans living in a comfortable world, have lost it… to their detriment.

Often the activity is called: connecting the dots… Even if Steve Jobs says: it is only possible to connect the dots backwards. He talks about different dots… he talks about the cause and effect type of dots, not the patterns. Continue reading

Vocabulary… Is it any word that added increases your vocabulary?

I have written about increasing your vocabulary, I have said it in coaching calls, I have been asking people to do what it takes, and the answer is… nothing. ((Read this other article to see some of what I am talking about when I talk about vocabulary and languagese))

One possible reason is that you don’t know what I mean.

I have two students, one of them ex… 🙁 who, while reading books, wrote down words with their meanings, and learned them like a second language.

I, myself, look up every word on my kindle when I read, I not, and then promptly forget the word. I have to look it up again the next time it comes up. And yet, I “sport” an ever growing vocabulary, that has gone from 1000 in 2011 to 5000 nowadays.

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12 Ways to Communicate by Roy H Williams

Every form of communication is composed of 12 basic ideas and each of these ideas, held singularly, is a separate channel of communication in the mind.

Like a jet lifting off the runway, these 12 concepts will accelerate and elevate your creative expression: speaking, writing, drawing, painting, persuading, acting, photography, sculpting, selling, singing, landscaping, interior decorating, inventing, filmmaking, engineering, and making music.

If I left out your favorite form of expression, just add it to the bottom of the list as you point the nose of your jet toward the sky.

Everything can be explained using these 12 languages of the mind, and each of the 12 can be expounded and expanded by the others.

Let us begin by defining a couple of terms.
Perception: a conscious awareness of a sensation and interpretation of sensations.
Communication: a successful transfer of perceptions to another person.

The impact of your communication is determined by your mastery of these 12 languages:

1. Numbers are a language of the mind.
Math is easier to learn when you think of it as a language. There are things that can be communicated in the language of numbers that can be said in no other language.

2. Color is a language of the mind.
Look at a color wheel. Pink and burgundy agree with red, but that entire family of color is contradicted by green. Add white to a color and you get a tint. Add black and you get a shade. Add grey and you get a tone. Colors, tints, shades, and tones communicate moods and attitudes. Color can be saturated to intensify – or desaturated to drain – a feeling.

3. Phonemes are a language of the mind.
Every spoken language is made of a specific number of sounds, and alphabets are constructed to represent those sounds. English is composed of 44 phonemes. The vowels of a language are its musical notes.1 The “stops” in English are the sounds represented by p, b, d, t, k, g. (Make those sounds in your mind; not the names of the letters, but the sounds the letters represent.) There are also labial, dental, fricative, and palatal phonemes. Obstruent phonemes give words a hard-edged, angular feel, like “taketa.” Sonorant phonemes give words a softer, feminine feel, like “naluma.”

4. Radiance is a language of the mind.
Outward radiance is energy expanding. Inward radiance is energy contracting. Hot and cold. Love and indifference. Dark and light. Dim light and shadows are sonorant. Bright light is obstruent. Likewise, pianissimo-soft is sonorant. Forte-loud is obstruent.

5. Shape is a language of the mind.
Angles are the obstruent phonemes of shape. Curves are sonorant.

6. Proximity is a language of the mind.
It speaks of the relationship of one thing to another. Large and small. Here and there. Left and right. Up and down. High and low. Near and far. Ahead or behind. Backward or forward. Absent or present. Complete or incomplete. Perspective, or angle of view, is another expression of proximity. Brother, sister, father, mother, cousin, co-worker and boss are words that describe relationship, a proximity measured in a “distance” that cannot be expressed in inches, feet, or miles.2

7. Motion is a language of the mind.
Fast and slow. Curved or angular (shapes of motion). Coming or going (proximity of motion.)

8. Taste is a language of the mind.
As a biological tool for identifying chemicals dissolved in liquids, the perceptions of the tongue give us a vocabulary that can easily be assigned to non-chemical perceptions, allowing flavor to be used as a metaphor for a wondrous number of other things. “She is a sweet girl, but her father is a bitter old man.”

9. Smell is a language of the mind.
Smell is a tool for identifying chemicals dissolved in air, so the perceptions of the nose provide us with another vocabulary that can easily be assigned to non-chemical perceptions. “The judge’s ruling in that case stinks like 9 day-old fish.”

10. Feel is a language of the mind.
Rough and smooth. Dry and wet. Painful and pleasant. Relaxed and tense. Outstretched and cramped. Extended and contracted. The words that describe skin and muscular sensations – pain, pressure, position, movement, and temperature – can be used to describe emotional states as well. Or anything else you want to aim them at.

11. Symbol is a language of the mind.
Symbols have specific meanings. Facial expressions and body language are symbols. A stop sign is a symbol. An exclamation point is a symbol. A smiley face is a symbol. Each letter of the alphabet is a symbol for a phoneme. And every ritual – communion, baptism, the dubbing of a knight by the king – is a symbol combined with motion, another language of the mind.

12. Music is a language of the mind.
Music is any sound that carries meaning. The sound of a jet. A dog’s bark. A slither in the grass. A baby’s cry. What we typically think of as music is composed of 1. Pitch (proximity: high and low), 2. Key (shape of sound), 3. Tempo (speed of motion), 4. Rhythm (shape of motion), 5. Musical Interval (proximity: near and far, how wide are the gaps between notes?), and 6. Musical Contour (shape of the melody line). The volume of music is an expression of its radiance. This is an example of what I meant when I said, “each of the 12 can be expounded and expanded by the others.”

Perception is deepened when two or more languages agree, creating concept reinforcement. (Such as dim light combined with slow music in a minor key.) But too much agreement creates a cliche.

Attention is elevated when a language disagrees and contradicts another, creating an interesting anomaly. (Such as a spotted cow that is hot pink and lime green) But too much disagreement creates confusion. (By the way, did you notice how “pink” was modified by radiance – hot – and “green” was modified by the symbol of a lime?) 3

Today’s introduction to the 12 languages of the mind was not meant to be exhaustive or comprehensive. It was merely the cracking open of the door to a forgotten room, an invitation to explore an undiscovered country, a glimpse at the gleaming gold molars of a yawning dawn.

Wasn’t that a colorful way to say, “the beginning of a brand new day?”

Just playing.

Roy H. Williams

PS – “The 12 Languages of The Mind” is a pet theory of mine. Consequently, you won’t be able to find any additional information about this concept online, although you will be able to confirm everything I’ve shared about the 12 languages if you investigate each of them singularly. NOTE: “obstruent” and “sonorant” are technically associated only with phonemes, but I took the liberty of applying these descriptions to other channels of communication. – RHW

1 According to Duke University’s Deborah Ross, musical intervals reflect the sounds of our own speech, and are hidden in the vowels we use. Musical scales ‘sound right’ because they match the frequency ratios that our brains are primed to detect. Her research indicated that this phenomenon is not limited to the English language. The musical scale of China is a reflection of the vowels in Mandarin. Ever wonder about the musical scale of India?

2 When proximity describes a non-spatial reality, such as a philosophical, emotional or perceptual reality, it’s called “shadow proximity.” Likewise, in #4, love and indifference are examples of “shadow radiance,” and in #8, “sweet” girl and “bitter” old man are examples of “shadow taste.” And in #9, a judge’s ruling that “stinks” like 9 day-old fish is an example of “shadow smell.” Optimism and pessimism are additional examples of “shadow radiance.” Does it surprise you that we use the words of objective, physical reality to explain subjective, perceptual reality? Each of the 12 languages has a shadow.

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Why unconditional “love” is damaging, and why setting conditions is healthy… even loving?

My new 20-day skill learning challenge is to listen and internalize 20 videos by Hungarian, now dead, psychologist, Peter Popper.

Why am I doing this challenge? What will this give me?

I am self-taught… or more precisely: I have an education that is hodge podge, eclectic: I gathered knowledge from all over the place, and I have gaping holes, that until this day I had no idea where to fill or how.

The gaping holes are so big, that some of my students could slip through: Whatever I knew didn’t help them to become all they can become.

With that said, I listened to a Dr. Popper masterclass on youtube, sadly, it is in Hungarian, with subtitles that you need to set to your own language…

Dr Popper’s masterclasses, a whole lot of them, have 60% truth value, 30% of what he says fills in my gaping holes. Continue reading

From Que Sera Sera, a meandering path to no regrets

I left Hungary 37 years ago. And yet, when I hum, half of the songs are Hungarian, from before I left there.

I trust that when a song pops into my head, it is some kind of guidance. So when the song that was somehow related to the Counter-revolution in 1956, Que sera sera sung in Hungarian, when that song popped into my mind, I said to myself: pay attention. What is it saying?

I was nine years old at the time, and I was puzzled why the song would be put on the black list… I still can’t see why.

I am doing a little research on google. Continue reading

Invisible dynamic: the concern, having your foot nailed to the floor

Do you get fixated on what’s wrong with you? With what’s wrong with the world? With what you want? With what should be?

Fixate or abdicate is the “normal” binary behavior. Neither behavior serves you… it serves the machine.

I woke up this morning with a start. I had a nightmare.

I was in some exam situation where I was slowly losing my ability to grasp anything. I could not follow the instructions, and then in a lecture I didn’t understand a word the instructor, a woman with a southern accent said.

Everybody laughed, she must have been funny, but I could not make more than a word here and there.

I cried. I cried to the instructor after the lecture, if that is what it was.

After I got up, I started to think how I would solve this problem in real life. It is actually true about me that I have difficulties with accent, that I have difficulties with fuzzy audio…

Then I sat down to work, and looked at my site, and it started to dawn on me that this was a “teaching/guidance” dream: I am leaving people in the dust. Continue reading

You are always investing… Investing in things, investing in feelings, or investing in yourself

Some days I get a ton of offers for new marketing tools, and I get desirous… I want to buy, but then I ask Source: I muscle test if I should buy, and the answer is always “NO”. ((The same thing is happening in food, in books to read, movies, videos to watch… by the way.))

So I have been pondering what guides Source… ((I call all-knowledge Source. But I could also say that my higher power, the one I am willing to obey and listen to: “whatever works” is what i am asking questions of.

I am not very concerned with truth… I am concerned with what works… In life, in reality, for most people.))

What investment is useful and for what? Is getting more visitors to my site useful? Not really, the return on investment is fragile… Having more visitors to my site won’t forward my work, more visitors may put some pocket change in my pocket, but are they really interested in what I teach? Not that I can see…

Every minute of every day, every choice, ask the same question: is this for a temporary gain, or is this for a permanent gain. Is it for me, or is it for some circumstance I’d like?

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How and why is reality malleable? Transformation proves Quantum Physics theory

With the start of the new Playground group two weeks ago I am beginning to learn yet another wrinkles in human culture? psyche? that I hadn’t encountered before.

Not accidentally, I think, the people with that different world view, different thinking, are from different cultures…

  • Wrinkle #1: If my behavior makes me unhappy towards unpleasant or disagreeable things, what I need to do is change my behavior
  • Wrinkle #2: If what I am saying and how I am saying it is not reality, not real, then I must change what I am saying, but still say the same thing, but differently.
  • Wrinkle #3: If reality changed then what would also change is what is true! Oh no! Truth must remain truth! Baah!

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