You can’t win the bets you don’t make. You can’t win the arguments you don’t engage in. You can’t win without taking risks.
If you look at me, and can see, you’ll see a person with severe dyslexia, serious holes in her brain from two episodes of brain damage.
What does this mean? This means that I make a lot of mistakes, mistakes most people would not make…
Couple that with a quick-start personality, and you get a lot of failures, a lot of mistakes, a lot of screw-up… and, surprisingly a lot of wins.
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I said in the last article and I say it here again: We are all born with a full “Christmas tree” loaded with ornaments i.e. genes. Some of those ornaments light up, some of those don’t. The capacities that those … 
The anchor to your doom attachment What gives it away is the implied inevitability. The language. That it’s always, or never. Like I am never going to be successful. Stings. Hurts. My eyes are watering. I scramble to avoid it, … 
The level of evolution where you are is called human. The next level is called human being.
Most of the things that make sense are wrong: optimism, hope, big desires, motivation…
From the questions you ask, I am starting to understand what is your current world-view, self-view: