I am reading Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene. The genes that use humans as vehicles, and are only interested in procreation, and not in the life experience of the vehicle.
But, as I have said before, there are 160 intangible capacities, mostly dormant, in the human DNA. The ones that we are going to look at in this article are the capacities (genes) of generosity (altruism) and trust.
Trust and generosity seem to be at odds with the selfishness of the genes… but they don’t have to be.
Learned helplessness, this is today’s topic. The opposite of “Bring it on…!” Your life depends on which is your dominant attitude.
Which attitude will get you what you want?
No contest, I hope, learned helplessness will get you more of the same.
50% of the world’s population behaves like they can’t handle it. It is learned helplessness… it is not innate. But it feels innate…
But it is, in reality, a reflex built and initiated by parents, religion, school, and politi
The Detached/Unattached ((I am starting to realize that a better name would be: Unattached… but then,
I am working on creating a communication course, but first things first:
So I am going to do weekend workshops to teach you how to get unstuck.
The workshops are designed to teach you to use the Detached capacity to get you unstuck in the moment.
Having the capacity is nice, but unless you know exactly what to do with it, it works only like a remedy: in the moment. Whereas true getting unstuck means that you start moving.
The purpose of the workshop is to get you from your stuck state to where you are moving and starting to create a life worth living.
Your first session will include the activation of the DNA capacity: Detached. And me checking that you actually know how to use it.
The Detached capacity does not automatically detach you… just lik
My first foray, my first venture into joy or joyous is trying to figure out what joy is. After all we don’t know necessarily what words mean when it comes to feelings… do we. We, children, watch and learn… but in a world where what you see is a mask, what you see does not represent a feeling accurately, because the person isn’t feeling it, because the person is faking it, the looks don’t help.
My hunch is that joy is fabricated with the intention to cause craving for it, to cause an acute sense of the lack of it.
Actually, when I watch people who enjoy something, they
Let me ask you something: do you have to deserve a body? Did you have to deserve to be able to read?
No. Deserving is much more basic, and much more profound than that kind of deserving, which would equate the word with earning.
Earning is a mercantile world’s word: it measures your work, or your merchandise against the asking price… earning.
But deserving is different, regardless how crazy that word drove me when I was a kid. My kid brother whining that he deserved whatever he was whining about.
I didn’t think I deserved anything, so he asserting that he de
I watched something yesterday that allowed me to have a new insight about the Irish. Note: this is not about the Irish, and not about the Italian, and not about the Chinese… This article is to allow you a glimpse into the dynamic of war, vengeance, the eye for an eye…
The more temperamental a group is, the easier it is to dominate them, to play them, to incite them to kill, go to war.
The Irish is a temperamental bunch, and the killing, terrorism, has been going on for man
I am starting to see that this missing capacity: the capacity to see a process ((noun: process; plural noun: processes
a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end.
“military operations could jeopardize the peace process”
synonyms: procedure, operation, action, activity, exercise, affair, business, job, task, undertaking
“investigation is a long process”)) , design a process, to have a strategy, is what’s missing to take me out of the one woman band existence.
Message to my friend: please don’t be offended. This was too good a story, too educational, to pass by. I didn’t mean to offend you, or invalidate your effort.
Is responsibility a capacity? If it isn’t, it should be… but it isn’t.
Responsibility, the behavior, has lots of other capacities that need to be lit up for it to work.
I am observing an unfolding dramatic story: a storm in a teacup.
I don’t have a car. I have a woman, who has become a friend eventually, drive me on Tuesdays to do my errands, chiropractor, grocery sh
This article expresses a turning point in my work… read it fully if you can.
Some of you may wonder why I am not starting the new Second Phase Activators course… after all I have done it three years ago…
But truth be told… I have learned so much in these three years… that the new course needs a lot of work… maybe not a lot of time, but a lot of thought and technology. And now that I am working on