One of the questions I hear on the Talk-to-Me calls or in emails is how to “make it better” or what is good, etc.

It’s all a comparison, past based, from the mind.

One thing, disappointment ((the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.
“to her disappointment, there was no chance to talk privately with Luke”
synonyms: sadness, regret, dismay, sorrow; More
dispiritedness, despondency, distress, chagrin;
disenchantment, disillusionment;
displeasure, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement
“his disappointment in the outcome was obvious”
antonyms: satisfaction

a person, event, or thing that causes disappointment.
plural noun: disappointments
“the job proved a disappointment”
synonyms: letdown, nonevent, anticlimax, washout; informal: bummer
“the trip was a bit of a disappointment”)) can’t be made better. It’s like pregnant: it is either a yes or a no.

Now, I assume that we all get disappointed, more or less, depending on us.

Disappointment is the shadow side of expectation.

Expectation, of course, is quite automatic, just like having an agenda is automatic… actually they are just a different word for the same thing.

I haven’t been able to consciously not expect a certain result… on the other hand, for the most part I expect nothing… or expect the worst.

This is another Dark Side suggestion: expect the best and then you’ll get the best… What a bunch of huey! The whole positive thinking movement is a Dark Side suggestion, and has created more misery than even religion, which is saying a lot.

Expecting the best won’t get you the best… Exactly the opposite is true.

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