I have been observing people’s behavior in seminars, coaching calls, and even one-on-one conversations.

They are rarely hearing what you are saying. ((This is the foundation, by the way, of the saying that you cannot talk butterfly to a caterpillar person… they translate everything to caterpillar… so you can talk, but they don’t hear you.))

Do what do they do?

• 1. they get hooked on something you said, and now they are in their minds, having a totally different conversations… a conversation wholly independent from what you are talking about.
• 2. they are arguing with you in their heads… don’t agree, don’t like, don’t own.
• 3. they have checked out… they are as good as asleep.

I have seen this third one in various courses and seminars.

When the topic goes to something that is unconfrontable, difficult, would take courage or intelligence to follow… something that is contrary to their world-view… people check out. They may fall asleep… especially men.

These is the main reason why I rarely offer one-on-one talk type coaching:…

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One of the brilliant ideas from the 67 steps that hardly anyone considers as applying to them is the idea of spending at least one third of their discretionary time ((time you have control over, time you can call your own.  I have found that it could be as high as two hours, but as a minimum, an hour a day is necessary if you want to grow. You’ll train your TLB with this too… because being with people who are better than you is NOT comfortable… actually it can be very painful.

I picked this video for you, for two reasons: it says what the “law” says, and it is also not comfortable to watch, because it is delivered by an Orthodox/religious Jew to other Jews… So get ready to be uncomfortable… for two reasons… lol. I am rooting for you…

)) in the company of people who are ahead of them. Preferably by 20 years of experience and wisdom and results in a certain area of life.

These people will be able to teach you something, and you will feel small, ignorant, and maybe even worthless.

But you’ll have a chance to learn something useful.

Instead people prefer spending time with ignorant people they can feel smarter than. This is one of the main reasons you can continue feeling a lot more valuable than you actually are. ((Your precious “I” is measured in your humility… It takes humility to be willing to be with the more experienced, the more successful, the more knowledgeable… because if your humility is low, you’ll never learn, and because if your humility is low, they won’t want you around…))

In my article “democratic” says more about this…

One of my students in the 67 steps coaching decided to start listening to me. That was a huge step for him… This happened after a whole year of pretending that he did in fact listen to me.

As a result he observed his environment and found that his boss is one of those 20 years ahead of him guys.

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Make your plane go where you want it to go…

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don’t know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that… while their plane crashes in every area.

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Dear Sophie:

I just watched this interview with the author of “Never Split the Difference.” It’s a book about negotiation techniques. The author is a former FBI hostage negotiator. I found it quite intriguing. My head was spinning just trying to keep up with the conversation. Afterwards, I was left with very mixed feelings. It seemed to me that my desire to learn more about these techniques was rooted in greed and a sense of wanting to learn in order to win or manipulate. Whatever the feeling, I am not comfortable with it; it was not a pure feeling. I have a different idea about communication, one having to do with connection, more along the lines of Steven Covey, ” Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood,” and Dale Carnegie, and the Communication Course. Maybe I misread the author (without having read the book). Maybe my aversion to learning negotiating techniques is related to my resistance to A is A. I am curious to know the truth value of the material and the intention behind it.
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This article is stream of consciousness… I apologize for that.

Principles [note]prin·ci·ple
1. a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning.
“the basic principles of Christianity”
synonyms: truth, proposition, concept, idea, theory, assumption, fundamental, essential, ground rule
“elementary principles”
a rule or belief governing one’s personal behavior.
“struggling to be true to their own principles”
synonyms: morals, morality, (code of) ethics, beliefs, ideals, standards; More
integrity, uprightness, righteousness, virtue, probity, (sense of) honor, decency, conscience, scruples
“a woman of principle”
morally correct behavior and attitudes.
“a man of principle”
synonyms: morals, morality, (code of) ethics, beliefs, ideals, standards; More
integrity, uprightness, righteousness, virtue, probity, (sense of) honor, decency, conscience, scruples
“a woman of principle”
a general scientific theorem or law that has numerous special applications across a wide field.
a natural law forming the basis for the construction or working of a machine.
“these machines all operate on the same general principle”
2. a fundamental source or basis of something.
“the first principle of all things was water”[/note] are tricky. Depending on your level of vibration, on the size of your cone of vision, on the number and size of patterns you can see, you’ll translate the principle down to your size.

A principle says something to me, and another thing to you.

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I am still looking at how to become an influencer… ((influencer: MARKETING a person or group that has the ability to influence the behaviour or opinions of others: The influencer is the individual whose effect on the purchase decision is in some way significant or authoritative))

It’s not really my ambition… ((ambition is a desire for a something, future, or a result that you are willing and able to work towards… as opposed to desire: desire is for a future or a result you imagined in the privacy of your mind, and expect or hope to befall on you without doing anything. Another aspect of desire is that it is always a desire for the self alone… because you have no value to offer in return of what you wish for. And often you want what belongs to another… You hope that the powers that be… spirit, god, angels will prefer you and take from that other and give it to you.)) I am much more comfortable doing my thing and barely be noticed. But it seems that in today’s day and age, unless you do a lot of hoopla, loud, self-promotion, partnering up with high visibility people, and other fashionable strategies, becoming an influencer is impossible.

I am still looking if I really want to become an influencer or not.

I learned about becoming an influencer from Tai’s free video on trend stacking. ((

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A trend is, in this context, something that is becoming a fashion more and more. Something that has reached the masses and now they are jumping on the bandwagon. Popular…

My body is responding to this idea with massive indication that this is not my path. And yet…

And yet… increasing my sphere of influence, ((sphere of influence: a field or area in which an individual or organization has power to affect events and developments. In my case, the number of people who find it worthwhile to follow my articles and buy my products.)) even just doubling it would mean I can work with more people.

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Most things that hide in plain sight are crucial to your success in life. You may be staring at them, but like a color blind person looking at the colored dots that hide the number… you cannot see.

((The truth value of what you can find to read, whether it was written by a PhD or a lay person, is around 7%.

Most of what is said is not true by virtue of it being false… And a very large part makes the whole of what is being said is because it is a very partial truth: narrow cone of vision. But asking the question: what is it I am not seeing may trigger the kind of looking that could dig that or at least some of it out of the invisible… even if it is invisible for everyone.

This is MY methodology: I ask that question to penetrate the invisible part of reality.

I call it channeling, but it is, of course, isn’t channeling, but everyone knows that channeling is good, and no one has a word, good or bad, to penetrate the invisible part of reality. So calling it channeling has stuck.

The truth value of what I say, on average, is above 60%… and that “channeling” is the reason… The other reason is muscle testing while connected to All-Knowledge which I lovingly call Source.

I do most of my work in conversations, including when I write an article. I don’t just write an article, I have one, two or more specific people I talk to in my writing… because it is of special interest to them.

Depending on the vibration of the person addressed, an article is popular or goes right over people’s head.

People can relate to the parts I write to my low vibration students… they can find themselves in it.

I am selfish, I write more conversational articles to my high achiever students… at the expense of my popularity.

This has been one of the things that was invisible until I asked the question today “What is it I am not seeing?”))

Between you and me: you probably have never asked yourself “What is it I am not seeing?” have you?

Why don’t you ask, why don’t you don’t look?

• If you think that you know everything: you won’t look.
• If you think you see clearly what’s in front of you… you won’t look.

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Paris in the spring… nice thought.

Stay with me for a moment!

I am part of a study group. We go to seminars together to learn integrity so we can live an unpredictably great life.

This past Sunday, when the sun was shining and it was the first nice-weather weekend of the year, five out of the seven members of the group forgot to call our conference line on Sunday. Paris in the spring…

The seminar leader suggested we declare a breakdown. “What’s declaring a breakdown?” Asked one of the members innocently.

I volunteered to write a little essay (that is like a one-page scientific paper, lol) and sent it out to everyone. And then the s-h-i-t hit the fan.
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If you’ve bought into the b.s. that thinking good thoughts, happy thoughts, being non-judgmental is good for you, ((Over 1 TRILLION, that is a thousand billion pages tout the misdirection perpetuated on you!)) then your vibration is low, but more importantly, your vibration cannot be raised, unless you let go of this b.s.

Let’s turn this baby on its head: if you bought into the b.s. that your thoughts create your reality, and you need to avoid thinking bad thoughts regarding yourself, the world, the future, other people, because it makes you and your life bad… then there is nothing I can ever do for you, unless you change your mind.

Why? Because you refuse to interact with reality, you refuse to base your actions on reality.

Reality is neither good nor bad, it is what it is.

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