But it’s so “normal” to be a small thinker, that many people think they are big thinkers because they have big pie-in-the-sky desires.
What is a pie-in-the-sky desire? It is an end goal to which there is no ladder and there is no intention to build one.
One of the things I measure in the Starting Point Measurements is the size of your desire vs. the size of your ambition.
People with sky high desire entertain pie in the sky goals.
The easiest “test” to find out is to ask them to do the skill-finder process from the book “What Color is Your Parachute” that has been published, I guess, for 50 years? OK… I just checked, for 49 years.
That means you can find used copies of the book: that section hasn’t changed much… maybe a little with the introduction of computers.
How does the skill test go?
In any project your actions belie the underlying skills, the ability to do something. Flip a pancake, change a diaper, dig a hole in the garden, convince a cop to not give you a ticket, hold your tongue until it is time to speak, accept support, speak when afraid, listen well, prepare a meal plan, follow a recipe to a T, make the same recipe with a different ingredient and make it still good.
There are thousands of skills. Each need to be learned to be able to use them successfully.
The skill finding process asks you to write up seven incidents/stories/projects where you used skills, the project was successful, and you enjoyed the process, not just the result.
The words that communicate a skill are “what YOU DID”, and HOW you did what you did. So when you attend a class, for example, what they taught isn’t telling anyone what you did, only saying what YOU did will do that.
By age 18 I could have written 40 of those stories… but most of my clients can’t come up with more than three.
There are some exceptions… but not many. The idea of an action isn’t an action. The trying an action isn’t an action. Only an action is an action. And for the purposes of this exercise, only successful action is an action.
- Why is this a good test? It’s great because it shows you the lack of the ladder to reach your lofty goals…
- But the second reason it’s good because now you actually know how to build the ladder.
- And the third reason: the instructions say: only successful projects where you enjoyed what you needed to do to bring it to completion can be used. The fun part…
How, you ask? I’ll tell you.
Create projects, and take them home.
I have an average 3-4 projects going on at any one time.
Get a new computer, set it up, transfer the old stuff on it, repair the computer desk, clean up under it, discard the old computer responsibly… that is one project, not six…
A project can be fast… or it can take work over months.
The project of getting another 10 active years of living is going to take 10 years… because it is not only getting well, it is also staying well, and making it worth being alive… even that is part of it.
For many people setting up their energized water system is beyond what they can tolerate and handle… and even if they set it up, they don’t maintain it.
Some skills is building that same skill, find uses for it, make it grow…
Skills like muscles atrophy.
Two students are currently working on acquiring the skill of gratitude. That learning will take some wild twists and turns, because they don’t know what they are really learning…
I have a student whose project would be to increase his inspired level. When you are inspired, inspiration advises you, instead of your friends on facebook.
In the What’s Missing workshop we come up and agree on a skill/ability/attitude that you don’t have… but if you did, your life would become sunshiny… because of it.
Learning to be that, to have that skill often needs another skill: seeing the opportunity. Turning around on a dime. Letting go. Looking again to see if you saw reality when you first looked. It depends on your inner architecture what other skill you need before you can even dabble in the skill we invented.
People who live a small life, small thinking people, don’t fit well with my programs. Why? Because my programs are training you to become all you can become. And you cannot become… with small thinking.
And nobody can do it for you. YOU need to do the growing, the projects, the experimentation, tirelessly, consistently, or it won’t happen.
People who are afraid that I’ll kick them out know this about themselves. But instead of facing that fear and start growing, they keep doing the same things, small things, being afraid.
They have another thing in common: they blame, instead of own what makes them small thinking.
You can be feeble minded, but if you own it, it won’t stop you: and you can become all YOU can become. You don’t need a strong mind to become yourself.
You can be wounded, hurt, but if you own it, then it won’t stop you: you can start growing, while you take your hurt and fear with you.
You can be a black hole waiting for others to fill you up… but you can own it. And start doing projects that grow you, and maybe fill you up.
You can be born on the wrong side of the tracks… seeing rich white people who must have stolen it from your kind… But if you own that it is YOUR WORLD VIEW, then you can build yourself up, and get inspired by what YOU can do with your life, regardless what rich white people have, do, or think, regardless what the other self-made victims say when you leave their circle.
So you see, often the world view is at fault for being a small thinker, and owning what owns you is the first skill to learn… that unless you do, nothing else is coming… no ladder is built.
You remain on earth and the pie in the sky stays out of reach.
So what is there to do? you ask.
You should find out really where you are at… “spiritually”, most of it is mindset, and physically.
It’s a snapshot of where you are at, who you are, and where to grow yourself.
And then, when you are done with that, maybe you’ll be accepted to attend the What’s Missing workshop. It takes skills, by the way, to be at the workshop, and be set up correctly, so I can work with you.
If your skill level is too low, and I see examples for that, then you are not ready for the workshop.
OK, here is the link to get your Starting Point…
Get your combined health and spiritual measurementsand once you are done, I’ll give you the link to the What’s Missing Workshop.
There is one scheduled this coming Saturday, so if you want to come to that, make sure you get your Starting Point Measurements.
Read the original article: Small thinking always indicates a small life, small opportunities, low vibration.
I just read an excerpt of Mark Manson’s (vibration: 260) book, about the path to growing… The art of not giving a f*ck
