Change vs. what you really want
We all say we want to change. Change ourselves, our financial situation, our habits.
Some of us only use the word because we don’t know how to say what we mean. But most of us literally mean: change.
But there is a problem with the phenomenon: change. It actually gets you more of what you are changing.
It sounds like an oxymoron. More of what I don’t want? Yeah, that’s right. More of what you don’t want.
As I said in my last article, life is drab, drudgery, boring, and meaningless… unless you blow magic dust over it.
Here are a few examples that illustrate the principle of magic:
I am using pictures with a well-known story to illustrate the point…
A few years ago I asked my little brother to look at some pictures I was putting on a gallery. His feedback to me was… “What?! just pictures!?!?!?”
That really made me think. An ordinary person, like my brother, without a context, without a story only sees the drab, the mundane, the boring, the ordinary.
Recently I found myself finding my life blah. So I set out to regain my will to live… because with blah comes no will to leave, much like when you are forced to eat tasteless food, you lose your will to eat.
I also noticed that the color faded from my language. People stopped complimenting me on the turn of phrases, the expressions, the metaphors I used… because I stopped using them.
I was thinking of making this an article, but I think, as a question and answer type of post it will work better…
I am sure after reading this, you will have plenty of questions. Please post them in the comment section of this post: that way I can answer many readers all at once. Thank you. PS: Important: Read the summary at the end about the bug free mind, the good, the bad, and the ugly!
Question #1: So, I have been observing my thoughts and emotions as they come up just like you mentioned and I am learning to surrender to everything, including negativity.
I have heard that surrendering to negativity involves feeling the emotion in its full form instead of trying to suppress them.
When you feel an emotion of sadness and start to have some tears instead of suppressing them, are you doing it right?
Because at the same time, I do not want to be giving energy to these negat
My takeaways from session One of my skill workshop
Some of my students are struggling to make real headway in the world, because they haven’t been able to see where their abilities could make them a success.
Although I haven’t lead the “What color is your parachute” skill finder workshop …
The first Osho book I have ever read, was Maturity. I started to read it in the store, and fell in love with it.
It echoed one of my favorite Landmark courses, the Wisdom Course.
In that course, maturity was a state (they call it possibility, just a Landmark word!): where you were using adult capacities to live your life.
One would think that when you are an adult you use your adult capacities, but that is not the case.
Ask anyone; the happiest moments of one’s life are the moment when we find ourselves in our vertical self… or at least centered and grounded in the bottom of it.
It doesn’t happen a lot, because we are brought up and encouraged to live in our horizontal being.
I have been observing people for about 30 years… I have participated with thousands. I have coached thousands. I have been friends with a few.
There has been one thing in common with all of them: they picked and chose what they wanted to do, so they never succeeded.
I observed the same thing on myself, and to the degree that it is there, to the degree someone won’t amount to anything, won’t amount to much.
I read quite a few sales letters a day, ((I am most interested in marketing)) mostly because I am interested… not in buying, but …
Yesterday I did some teaching with some people and the stuff didn’t go through. I am at a point where I am questioning if anything can be taught, if any change can be accomplished, if the current humanity is even able to go to the next level of evolution.
In this article we are going to look at pretense, and what it cost you. It cost you more than it gains you… but the biggest cost is that you are stuck and you can’t go to the next level.
“All the colors I am inside have not been invented yet,” wrote Shel Silverstein, in his children’s book *Where the Sidewalk Ends.* It’s especially important for you to focus on that truth in the coming weeks. I say this for two reasons. First, it’s imperative that you identify and celebrate a certain unique aspect of yourself that no one else has ever fully acknowledged. If you don’t start making it more conscious, it may start to wither away. Second, you need to learn how to express that unique aspect with such clarity and steadiness that no one can miss it or ignore it
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In the last blog post I spoke about all the ways you hide that you are a human, unwilling to be caring, loving, nice, accommodati